The woman who is my identical twin

[SamePendo]

I met this woman some 3 weeks ago. The first time I met her, she went with a guy I thoought waas his bf. She kept looking at me. Not with a sex expression, or nothing like that, just, looking at me. Not stalker type either.

Then, I went and talked to her, the guy was his brother. Well, next week, I talked to her, and realized she is very, very like me. And I´m a weird guy.

Musical tastes, social abiliities, tastes in everything, everything. Next time I saw her, I was convinced I was talking to some kind of freaking type of soul maate or ****. I just asked some questions about her, and I already knew the answer. She is me. Not just tastes, but opinions on life, everything, she is me.

That is basicaly my problem. Haha, I don´t know what the ****. I feel like when you find out someone in the family died... you just cant digest it.

Problem with making her mine is.. she has a bf. And I dont know if she loves him, but she cares-likes him. When asked about anyone really close friend of hers, she said none, except for his bf. She, as me, is very social (im more social than she is, thanks to you guys) but doesn´t have real, REAL friends. Like me. Tons of partners.. to put it one way... but not really a REAL friend.

I had never ever met a person, let alone woman, as her. She is me.

My question, have any of you had this situation? What did you do? I´m planning on well, hanging on, not being her friend (aka, emotional tampon) and, at the ssame time, I dont know, learn from her, I dunno. Please advice, I need some experience on this.

Thanks.

 

[squirrels]

Take the time to feel her out. Don't get all head-over-heels just yet. One meeting 3 weeks ago is not enough to identify EVERY possible compatibility issue. It's a good start, though.

Run your game just like any other girl...only keep this one.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

Originally posted by squirrels
Take the time to feel her out. Don't get all head-over-heels just yet. One meeting 3 weeks ago is not enough to identify EVERY possible compatibility issue. It's a good start, though.

Run your game just like any other girl...only keep this one.

sounds like solid advice, i dont know why but i stoped giving advice, maybe because its summer holidays and i dont want to have to start thinking again yet

 

[Anomalous]

Just because she has a bf doesn't mean your out for the count!!

Every beautiful woman bonces from one guy to another. They just need a reason to (YOU)!!

If you like this girl, go for it.

 

[StringShredder]

Watch it, you might be dealing with someone who is playing you.

Are you leaking information about yourself that she is spinning into ``me too'' material to make herself seem similar to you?

Just be alert when the person seems like your mirror image.

 

[So pimp its scary]

What string says is true...

I've been dealing with this very issue with a girl that I went on a date with a couple weeks ago (we're going out again in 30 min now).

It was weird at first because she was the one telling me things and the whole conversation I couldn't help but think 'HOLY CRAP!! This girl is ME in female form'. I mean, she had the same issues with music, movies, politics, anything...

All I've been doing is to remind myself 'Ok, this girl is cool, keep your game face on.'

 

[SamePendo]

I´ve said nothing to clue her to whatever I want her to tell me. I ask open ended questions. Like... Do you have a lot of friends?... And with that question I took the conversation so that she told me that she can´t stand people of her own age group, and can only get alonng with much more grown up people, and kids (same as me)... etc etc.

Now... compatibility issues... I kind of looked for these... and I had thoought I foound one. She´s kind of aggressive. When I say something c&f she hits me... not very playful, but still.. not mad-at-me type. And in a conversaation she is too, a bit aggressive. What I did is to tell her she looked cute when she does that... and that did it. ha.

There are two flaws I see.

1) As I´ve been the one making her flap her gums... She doesn´t realize how similar she is to me. I mean, I do talk and all... but I suppose I´ve put my guard down and haven´t made her see the chemistry.

2) As I said, I probably put my guard down. She sees me kind of as a friend.. or in a friendly kind of waay... I just kind of sense it..
But I can´t be that bad... I met her at the gym.. and she said I´m the gym´s boyfriend.. Why? I asked. And it waas because all women are my gfs. That can be a bad or good comment. I censed it as a good one.