The Wise Older Brother

[evolvingnerd]

i'm the elder brother, but i need some help
now, brothers are always competing and comparing each other in every respect.

and to date, i've pretty much beaten my brother in every respect, be it related to studies, sports, jobs, music, whatever. however, i've been quite the nerd, and i think he felt it nessesary to believe he was better than me socially, and more importantly, at getting the girls.

now, a few nights ago, we were at a mutual party, and i rocked

i was funny, spontaeous and witty, and i had one girl throw herself all over me. now, he was pretty much attached to one girl, and even then, i upped the C+F on her, and i had her continuing to try to get my attention, infront of my brother

now, i haven't spoken about any of this, but i think i'm starting to realise that my brother resents me, because he's always been in my shadow

i've also started to notice that he's very passive agressive, and he takes no hesitation in calling my a dumbass or d!ckhead or anythign like that, and when we're out together, he outright insults me in front of company - not too often, but often enough to piss me off

so how can i go about being a good brother, without pitying him (that'll no doubt make things worse)

 

[JT47319]

Well, first of all, haven't you heard of "Bros before hos?" Why were you mackin' on her if your brother was interested?

I'm all for stealing and wooing girls away from random dudes. Competition makes you better, but I never game a girl that one of my friends is interested in unless it's pretty obvious that she's totally disinterested in him AND he gives me the ok.

Everyone else is fair game.

 

[Bonhomme]

... he takes no hesitation in calling my a dumbass or d!ckhead or anythign like that, and when we're out together, he outright insults me in front of company - not too often, but often enough to piss me off

But if you c0ckbloced him on the one gal, he has reason to be pissed off. Let him do his thing with his gal, and you concentrate on yours. If you just happen to be socializing normally and the gal gets attracted to you, then you haven't done anything wrong, and he should learn from you, rather than hold it against you.

The public insults hurt him more than they do you. That's typical low-status behavior. The others may even think he's a bit nuts. Perhaps -- after this thread fades a few pages back -- you can tell him about this site, and start mentioning -- in private conversations -- that his attitude is holding him back and you know he can do better if he quits being jealous of you an starts to make the best of what he's got.

 

[evolvingnerd]

he wasn't really interested in this girl
he's got a g/friend

any other viewpoints?