"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Wheel

Jerry Maguire

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Here's something that just came to mind that I first heard quite a while ago.

When planning your life, one usually divides it up into sections in order to improve, such as; career, girlfriend, friends, appearance and other hobbies.

Now imagine each of your goals, or sections would represent a section of a pie chart.

Finally, imagine a line being projected from the centre of the pie chart up through the middle of each section, this line being how well you are doing in each said area.

This may or may not be a difficult diagram to grasp, if people are having difficulty understanding, I will draw or find a diagram and post it.

Now, imagine this pie chart being a wheel. If you're focusing too strongly on a few areas of your pie chart (or wheel) and neglecting others, the wheel will not function properly. You can barely drive a car, let alone at any great speed with a misshapen wheel.

The metaphor, as I'm sure you've already guessed, is to have all sections, or goals in your life to be progressing at the same speed in order to be happy.

A lot of people are saying not to focus on women, but on careers and your body. This, I believe should not be too strongly embraced. By all means, pursure your chosen career and have an amazing body, but don't neglect your friends, your girlfriend, or girls you're interested in just because SS tells you so.

Hope this made sense, it's 4am and I'm tired :p
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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