"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

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the weirdest thing just happened. your thoughts?

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I met this girl at a Ruby Tuesdays a few months ago. She was the hostess. I was there with a friend and we had to wait a while to get seated. She's cute so I start flirting. After we get seated she comes to my table and talks to me more. I eventually suggest we hang out sometime. She gives me a piece of paper and a crayon (it was all she had) and we exchange numbers. I call a couple times a get no answer. Oh well.

A month later she calls me. We hang out, all we did was lounge together and watch some tv and talk. Like three days later she calls and says shes back with her ex. I tell her to give me a call when she's single.

So today, almost 2 months later, I get a text from her while I'm on break at work. "We broke up." I ask if shes ok, she says she wants to call me. Told her what time I was done work and said to give me a call after.

She calls me about an hour ago. Apparently, she's been drinking. We get to talking and she starts telling me all this crazy sh*t like how hot I am and I'm so sexy (I'm seriously an average looking guy in slightly above average shape) and starts saying stuff about how she had this huge crush on me n loves my name n how she still has the "note" I wrote her with my number (I f*cked up when I was writing and wrote "I suck at crayons" on the piece of paper with my number) and she really wants to hang out and blah blah blah...

Then outta nowhere she starts breathing heavy and apologizing. I ask her what's wrong. She says shes "so f*cking horny right now" and says she might have to go for a few minutes. I say "or you could just stay on the phone"...so she does. I start telling her about what I would do to her if I was with her and she starts getting really loud on the phone. After a few minutes, she's quiet. Then she tells me that was the first time she ever made herself *** and is still breathing heavy and tells me how bad she wants to return the favor...then she just hangs up.

Soooooo weird and random. Does anyone else have a story like this? Should I expect her to be weird about it the next time I talk to her? Do you think she's batsh*t crazy and I should leave her alone?

Also, any tips on phone sex? I've only done that sorta thing before through txt n pic messages.

Thoughts appreciated. I'm pretty damn perplexed.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Lol.

Same thing happened to me with a girl I had sex with regularily but also phone sex. When she came, she just hang up. It was crazy :p I just laughed. This happened several times.

What's that all about?
 

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The Decay of Meaning said:
Lol.

Same thing happened to me with a girl I had sex with regularily but also phone sex. When she came, she just hang up. It was crazy :p I just laughed. This happened several times.

What's that all about?
No idea, it's weird though because I've never even kissed this girl.
 

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Blank said:
No idea, it's weird though because I've never even kissed this girl.
WOW so let me get this straight.... You got this girl's #... you called her more than once and she never got back to you...

So a month later she calls and you become immediately available to hang out with her

A few days later she says she's back with her ex lol ????

At least you made a great move after that though saying "Call me when you are single"

You really should teach classes in demonstrating higher value man lol

You mean never even kissed "A" girl
 

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Jayer said:
WOW so let me get this straight.... You got this girl's #... you called her more than once and she never got back to you...

So a month later she calls and you become immediately available to hang out with her

A few days later she says she's back with her ex lol ????

At least you made a great move after that though saying "Call me when you are single"

You really should teach classes in demonstrating higher value man lol

You mean never even kissed "A" girl
Ugh...seriously dude do you have nothing better to do than sift through the site and reply to my posts? Get a life.

For the benefit of anyone reading this and for some reason is in consensus with this keyboard jockey, I called her twice and got no answer. It was a land line so I gave it a 2nd try the following day. For all I know she was busy, doesn't have caller ID, was out, etc. No answer, nothing personal, oh well.

When she called me back we set something up for the following week. Jayer is right about it being bad to become immediately available when a girl calls. Very basic pua knowledge. If you're available immediately it shows that you don't have a whole lot going on, which is bad.

At the time I was seeing 2 other girls and really didn't want to play therapist for her with all her relationship problems. I have enough female friends. I told her to gimme a call when she was single.

This was a strange interaction for me because it was the first time it's ever happened. I've never kissed this girl yet she was cool having phone sex when she was drunk. Strange but I guess it shouldn't surprise me.



As a follow up to the original post, she called me back later last night and wants to hang out Sunday. I told her I'd let her know. Usually I reserve Sunday nights to wrap up schoolwork for the week so odds are I'll have to flake and reschedule.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Blank, that sounds good to me. She is obviously very interested - she had phone sex with you! That she hangs up right after is not so odd, it was probably an unusual situation for her, and you two are not a couple, so she felt embarrassed. You should send her a joking message after something like that to set a relaxed mood, like, "Guess I should have given you roses first - maybe next time!"

Okay, there are better lines. But anyway, just to show that you want to go on talking with her in a casual way. And then ask her out. Sounds like she is very available.
 

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dont flake sunday, go close the deal. do your homework earlier in the day. you have invested some time already, why not reap the benefits now?
 

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Blank said:
Ugh...seriously dude do you have nothing better to do than sift through the site and reply to my posts? Get a life.

For the benefit of anyone reading this and for some reason is in consensus with this keyboard jockey, I called her twice and got no answer. It was a land line so I gave it a 2nd try the following day. For all I know she was busy, doesn't have caller ID, was out, etc. No answer, nothing personal, oh well.

When she called me back we set something up for the following week. Jayer is right about it being bad to become immediately available when a girl calls. Very basic pua knowledge. If you're available immediately it shows that you don't have a whole lot going on, which is bad.

At the time I was seeing 2 other girls and really didn't want to play therapist for her with all her relationship problems. I have enough female friends. I told her to gimme a call when she was single.

This was a strange interaction for me because it was the first time it's ever happened. I've never kissed this girl yet she was cool having phone sex when she was drunk. Strange but I guess it shouldn't surprise me.



As a follow up to the original post, she called me back later last night and wants to hang out Sunday. I told her I'd let her know. Usually I reserve Sunday nights to wrap up schoolwork for the week so odds are I'll have to flake and reschedule.
cough cough bullsht cough cough
 

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Blank, you seem like you've got your sh1t together, judging from this post (haven't checked out your other posts). The other dude sounds like a dipsh1t.

Good luck buddy.
 

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wow you are so obsessed with your reputation on this board that you resort to using your other name.. absolutely pathetic... Funny how it comes out of hiding 2 weeks later to post to your defense. At this point I genuinely just feel sorry for you.

just an fyi, but who the f$*# gives out land lines these days anyways??? Thats text book pua crap from 6 years ago when you first made your account on here.

If you are going to tell a lie at least make it believable, jackass.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Jayer said:
wow you are so obsessed with your reputation on this board that you resort to using your other name.. absolutely pathetic... Funny how it comes out of hiding 2 weeks later to post to your defense. At this point I genuinely just feel sorry for you.

just an fyi, but who the f$*# gives out land lines these days anyways??? Thats text book pua crap from 6 years ago when you first made your account on here.

If you are going to tell a lie at least make it believable, jackass.
Lmao wtf are you talkin about? My other name? 2 weeks later? Huh?

She gave me her house phone because her cell had been off for a while, she said she couldn't afford the bill. You're right though, most people don't give out land lines these days.

Can't believe you're still posting on my threads...you need something better to do with your time.



Follow up to the original post, went out Sunday afternoon, she called me at 4pm and but I told her I'd call her back because I was out. Called her back around 7, she said she was busy, hangin out with a friend at her place. She wound up calling me again around 10 that night but I missed it, gave her a call back. Asked her if she wanted to hang out, she said sure come over. Got to her apartment around 11, closed the deal.

Still think shes a nut job though.
 
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