I will never understand why pick up has been looked at as different steps, different phases. We shouldn’t break the interaction down to were it’s no longer fun, nor dynamic. We should cherish the different responses we get from women, and we should cherish the responds we give to them.
When we look at the social arts in phases (attract, rapport, ect) we start focusing on what we should say or do, on how we should hold are feet, this is not art, this is seduction.
Imo the way of pick up is not about getting sex, sex, sex, but a way to inter-lock a women in a dynamic conversation that you both enjoy. How can one enjoy a true conversation when you are so focused on what to say or do? The most important thing in any interaction is to listen that is the most fundamental thing in a conversation. We often will loose focus on listening, and start thinking on what to say next. I know cause I did it as well, I would run a routine or pattern then as opposed to listening to her response and going from there I would like many of us would go into my head and completely forget that I was supposed to be listening to someone talking.
People are always asking the question “what do I say after the ILY opener” I even asked this myself. The answer is listening. That’s it just listen, one would not realize the wealth of info a women will give you if we would just listen.
Any who I have ranted on long enough. I hope you guys understand what I am saying, instead or focusing on steps and phases we should make an effort to listen and respond accordingly and not worry about all that extra mess.
Hopes this helps
- Blackgame
When we look at the social arts in phases (attract, rapport, ect) we start focusing on what we should say or do, on how we should hold are feet, this is not art, this is seduction.
Imo the way of pick up is not about getting sex, sex, sex, but a way to inter-lock a women in a dynamic conversation that you both enjoy. How can one enjoy a true conversation when you are so focused on what to say or do? The most important thing in any interaction is to listen that is the most fundamental thing in a conversation. We often will loose focus on listening, and start thinking on what to say next. I know cause I did it as well, I would run a routine or pattern then as opposed to listening to her response and going from there I would like many of us would go into my head and completely forget that I was supposed to be listening to someone talking.
People are always asking the question “what do I say after the ILY opener” I even asked this myself. The answer is listening. That’s it just listen, one would not realize the wealth of info a women will give you if we would just listen.
Any who I have ranted on long enough. I hope you guys understand what I am saying, instead or focusing on steps and phases we should make an effort to listen and respond accordingly and not worry about all that extra mess.
Hopes this helps
- Blackgame
