The way I dress

[bish0p]

Okay, I know this is a bit silly, but I'm gonna post it anyway. I've heard numerous times that women tend to think that I am gay because of the way I dress.

Most of my clothes come from Express Men and I like the style. But, I've also been told by many that I also appear to be stuck up and ****y. Even more, I've had many girls tell me that I look like I don't take a **** or fart.

Now, I went to the gym today and I dressed pretty badly...not too badly, but I didn't iron my shirt or anything and I wore sneakers (usually, I wear dress shoes with the square tip from Aldos shoe store.

As I was going to GNC, I see this really hot woman walking past (business type and about 5'11"....I'm 5'8." I say with a smile, "How ya doin, beautiful?" She is so happy with this and looks me down and up as if she is waiting for me to come and talk to her. Unfortunately, I chicken out. But, this has happened on numerous occasions....I've even had girls stop there car and yell out how good I look and so on.

On the other hand, whenever I was dressed up, I've had multiple girls call me gay. One night, a group of girls did a U-Turn just to come and ask me if I was gay and another girl told me I look gay when I just asked how her and her friends were doing.

So, I want you're opinion as I've been considering changing my style of dress. Usually, I wear form fitting clothes, or button up shirts and nice slacks. My ex loved this and complained when I started dressing down.

I feel comfortable either way....although I feel a little more comfortable dressing down, but not confident.

Here's some pics:

 

[dj_china]

I'd say being asked if you are gay means you're dressing pretty well

 

[bish0p]

That's what I used to think, but girls seem to give me a harder time and less attention when I dress nicely.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

You might want to reply to that question with something like, "so which one of you wants to try to convert me?"

 

[Microphone Fiend]

I don't think your attire has everything to do with it although it does add fuel to the fire. I think it is just the way you are 'groomed' I guess you would call it. The softer your features are, the more your sexuality comes under scrutiny.

Couple your soft features, with dressing like you are European and being built like a model and you have a surefire formula for women thinking you like taking it up the pooper.

I don't want to make it racial but with the impression I get, you would appeal more to any other race except the average black woman may look at you as the kind of guy that doesn't date black women. If you are after black women than your attire can be the reason for your lack of attention at times.

 

[DJDanny]

I really have only 1 comment. In the first picture you definately look a lot more masculine, I think more so then your dress it's your accessories, rule of thumb I've been told is guys should keep it to 3 max or it starts to take away that masculinity.

In the first picture you have a pair of sunglasses,

In the second picture you've got some designer glasses, 2 ear rings, a chain, watch on one hand and a bracelet on the other.

 

[bish0p]

Deadly: haha...I've heard that one before and quite a few friends in the past have told me to use it....usually I just get pissed off and tell em to fvck off

Microphone: I usually do date women from all kinds of backgrounds. Oddly enough, more black women approach me than anything...but it's usually the UG's.

DJ: I've definitely cut back on the accessories (I only started wearing it because I was into the Mystery Method, and that has stayed with me since)...I've stopped wearing the earrings and leather band, but I still sport a chain and watch.

 

[bish0p]

eh, thanks for the tips guys. I'm not going to be wearing the hoops anymore, or the leather band.

 

[WhtRbt]

Dress however you want dude don't let other peoples' reactions affect you. You have girls approaching you based on the way you dress. If you had your head on straight you'd be bangin these girls instead of worrying about their opinion. Dress however the **** you want and if people give you **** for it, big deal. That's called social pressure and if you can show girls that the social pressure doesn't bother you one bit, you'll be golden.

 

[WhtRbt]

Btw I'd say you look kind of like a dork in the first pic, but you're lookin pretty baller in the second. The reason girls are saying you're gay or whatever is because they see this baller lookin guy and want to see if he's REALLY baller or just a chode in baller uniform. They're testing you dude. When they say "You look gay" what they mean is "You look good". You LOOK good, but do you have the personality and mental well-being to back it up? Can you remain confident even when they call you gay?

Come back with a witty remark, or pretend like you didn't even hear they're derogatory remark.

 

[WhtRbt]

eh, thanks for the tips guys. I'm not going to be wearing the hoops anymore, or the leather band.

This is your insecurities talking. You have to be able to take **** and keep on doin whatever YOU think is cool.

 

[bish0p]

Hey, I like that first pic!

But, I get what you're saying....I just started letting some people get to me recently and I'm trying to get the ball rollin again.

 

[Tiguere]

where you from./ where you live? here in new york city latinas digg your look. all throught high school i wore BAGGY phat farm and rocawear now i wear fitted clothes buffalo/inc/DKNY .

you live in the wrong area. you got the looks now you need the confidence.

 

[WhtRbt]

btw what you wear has nothing to do with attracting women. You could dress like a clown and pick up chicks. Just look at mystery. Women want the MAN behind the clothes, no matter what clothes (or accessories) he's wearing.

 

[bish0p]

where you from./ where you live? here in new york city latinas digg your look. all throught high school i wore BAGGY phat farm and rocawear now i wear fitted clothes buffalo/inc/DKNY .

you live in the wrong area. you got the looks now you need the confidence.

I'm from and still live in Jacksonville, Florida. I've been trying to go out lately while dressing down a bit and with really doing anything to my hair. I get attention when I go to the clubs, it's just during the day times that women act aloof to my presence.

WhtRbt, I agree. That's something I've been taking steps to overcome. I've put too much focus on my appearance and completely forget the personality thing (hence the pea-****ing).

This always happen when I date a girl for an extended period of time. I get lazy mentally and physically. So, I want to make sure this doesn't happen again, specifically because of the last relationship I was in.