Rhoto
Master Don Juan
Needs to be STICKIED.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The Warrior's Scroll
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
An amazing thread. Interceptor is to this generation as Pook was to the last.
This is a time of much self-reflection for myself. My only fear is that I will over-analyze myself into inaction.
This is a time of much self-reflection for myself. My only fear is that I will over-analyze myself into inaction.
jeffthechef
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hehe bushido..samurai contrived their code with the help of buddhism...which was a course i took in high school that helped me a lot with becoming a dj...so if anyone liked this thread...read up on buddhist philosophy..once you consider that way of thinking about the self and society..you'll feel enlightened...western philosophy was making me such an AFC
Rhoto
Master Don Juan
Bump.
LovelyLady
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
Not sure where the Spiritual Intelligence Officer/Tactical Officer "Interceptor" is these days...but one thing I know for sure:
The POWER of positivity in his posts LIVE ON.
RESPECT.
VU
The POWER of positivity in his posts LIVE ON.
RESPECT.
VU
Rhoto
Master Don Juan
Bump.
Guys, i currently live in Taiwan and study Longfist Kungfu....and this sums up almost everything taught to us besides a lot of seemingly abstract internal energy stuff like Qigong and technical stuff related to Kungfu of course....it's all about obtaining true peace and harmony inside and out and becoming completely balanced as a person physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually..
if you really want to live these codes, you can, but taking up an eastern martial art is the best way by far to change yourself.....for instance one of the codes mentions making your tantian your home...it is the center of not only your pyhsical body but your energetic body...half of our training is keeping the mind focused on this area at all times and connecting it to all of our actions and especially breathing into it. The benefits of this are many...a deep balancing not only physically, but also emotionally and mentally. The east is way ahead of the west on stuff like this and has been for thousands of years. Once you get deep into this stuff, you are a changed person both inside and out. Not to mention, the movements of Longfist are artistic beautiful....i'm sure the same can be said of Japanese swordsmanship.
if you really want to live these codes, you can, but taking up an eastern martial art is the best way by far to change yourself.....for instance one of the codes mentions making your tantian your home...it is the center of not only your pyhsical body but your energetic body...half of our training is keeping the mind focused on this area at all times and connecting it to all of our actions and especially breathing into it. The benefits of this are many...a deep balancing not only physically, but also emotionally and mentally. The east is way ahead of the west on stuff like this and has been for thousands of years. Once you get deep into this stuff, you are a changed person both inside and out. Not to mention, the movements of Longfist are artistic beautiful....i'm sure the same can be said of Japanese swordsmanship.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
Martial Art will definitely help you integrate these concepts.
Remember that all information, thats on the OUTside, is merely DATA.
Only when it becomes INTERNALIZED does it become part of WHO we ARE.
When it comes from your HEART. Then you KNOW it. Otherwise its just facts, data, and numbers. You have no relation to it. You have no reference to it.
Remember that all information, thats on the OUTside, is merely DATA.
Only when it becomes INTERNALIZED does it become part of WHO we ARE.
When it comes from your HEART. Then you KNOW it. Otherwise its just facts, data, and numbers. You have no relation to it. You have no reference to it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.