"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The Wall I cannot get Passed

DonGiovanni

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This has been a thorn in my side for awhile now. This is the reason why I came to this site. Im 16 and ive never kissed a girl. Ive had opportunities but i refuse to share my first kiss with anyone but HB 5+. But i feel as this has stopped me from progressing into a don juan as a normal person would. Now i just wanna make out with a bad A** chick. any help/advice?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bratt2230

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Dude.. You are SixTeen, Relax, it is not the end... you have like 14 years of fun in front of you...

Take it easy, at the moment i think you are being too needy and desperate..
 

DonGiovanni

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noted. ill chill out. i jus wanna make out with a broad to know what it feels like
 

DonGiovanni

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buckleyindahouse said:
Not all that special, your not missing much lol
well i just wanna see and its eating away at me any ideas/tricks/techniques to get me a PECK on the lips from a hot girl.
 

NorwegianDJ

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Ahh. Lets see if I can give you the good answer you're looking for.
Have you read the DJ bible? It's at the bottom left of the page. It is essential reading. After that you should see the blueprint de-coded, I'll PM you.

But, most importantly, YOU HAVE TO GO OUT AND APPLY IT!
There is really no way around it. You have to go out. You have to step outside your comfort-zone. You have to act in spite of the fear. It will diminish over time. I promise you, the first approach will feel much more scary than the ones that will follow. The first each day will always be the worst one, but it will get better by time. And also, don't use a lot of pick-up lines. Just be original and don't worry about what you say. Say "Hey my name is __" It doesn't really matter what you say. Of course some lines spark attraction immediately, but it fades in a few seconds. Don't waste your time being scared, inactive and trying to find a good pick-up line.

As for your kiss, don't worry about it. Don't become outcome dependent over that. If you go out, have fun and disregard the outcome; it will happen. However you do have to grab your balls and DO IT.
Rejection is ALWAYS better than regret.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DonGiovanni

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My impatience is getting the better of me. i suppose it all comes back to calming down. but is there anyway of keeping IT out of the way?
 

NorwegianDJ

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Read my post again, like seriously.
Everything is a product of your actions, as far as cause and effect goes.
Nothing will happen untill you go out and enjoy yourself, only then will you see a massive change. Just let go, get outside your head and have fun. Don't go get a victim mentality and complain here. Go apply.
 

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The first time I kissed a girl I was expecting sparks to fly or some retarded sh1t and when I did the only thing that went through my mind was "this is wet."

Thats about it, nothing special dont worry about it man.

After reading your post I could sense a theme of desperation throughout it. I am on the internet thousands of miles away and I dont know you and I can tell you are desperate for this to happen, imagine what the girls you see every day think?

You have to forget about this because you are becoming very outcome oriented.

My advice to you to get your first kiss is to forget about getting your first kiss. Work on yourself, get hobbies, make new friends, try new things. Do all those things and when you get to the point where you could really care less about getting a kiss (which you will) you will experience your first kiss.

"The less you give a fvck the more likely you are to get one."


Live it up and everything will fall in its place I promise,

SPEAK
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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