"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The voice of Voice

Voice

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Ok I'm new here so let me introduce myself. I'm 18 and I call myself Voice because puberty has been nice to me and given me a deep sexy voice :up: . However, puberty also gave me some pretty horrible acne. But with a year of accutane the acne has mostly gone away and guess what? It turns out I'm pretty good looking :cool: . Haha, so thats the good part, I have a sexy voice and I'm good looking.

However all those acne ridden and awkward young teen years have left me scarred with bad confidence, low self esteem and a lot of insecurities. I can't get over negative self talk and basically developed pretty bad social anxiety. Damn I know I'm a good prospect if I could just get some inner game.

Anyway, my reason for being here is a girl just like probably a lot of you. She's a hb8 with dark hair, blue eyes and a cute personality. She's the first one to tell me I have a sexy voice and developed oneitis for me. Damn I fell for her hard too (it was like a year ago). But I was so BAFC, it was pathetic. I would get so nervous when she would try to talk to me. She would always be trying to get me to talk and joke with her friends and laugh because she thought it was cute. Man I felt like such a *****, but I was still so into her I didn't care. Nothing happened and she eventually got a boyfriend. She still likes my voice and I still want to **** her.

God, I realize how pathetic all that was after reading a majority of the bible. I'm trying to get over this social anxiety and negative thinking, but I'm struggling. I'm tired of girls using me to raise their ego (he's so cute but I love making him nervous it makes me feel hot). Damn I just want to get over this and get the girls I know I can.

This post was really just for me, but any advice would help enormously.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What kind of advice are you looking for? Are you just venting or is there something specific you need help with?
 

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I could use really any advice. Mostly inner game advice or stories about how you triumphed over your shyness would help, anything that can relate to me or help motivate me. Or you can just read it and take it how it is if you can't relate. Again this is mostly for me.
 

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To be honest, it would be a lot more helpful if I knew exactly what it is you're having problems with,but ok,I'll take a shot in the dark. One thing that helped me with not taking rejection personally from a woman was something I read in a book one time. It said that when you approach a woman,if you get turned down,don't think it means that there is something wrong with you. In other words, don't think,"She rejected me because I'm ugly,or fat,because I'm this or that". The reason why is because when you approach a girl,you don't know what's going on in her life. Maybe she just got married the day before,or maybe her divorce was just finalized the day before. Maybe her brother was just in a car accident 3 hours earlier,or maybe she just got fired from her job. Who knows? The possibilties are endless. The point is that when you get turned down,you really don't know the real reason why,so there's no point in making up a reason and making yourself feel bad. Hope this was a help to you,but if you have a specific problem,don't hesitate to ask.That's what we're here for.
 
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