"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Value of Staying Calm

logicallefty

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I've been pushed to my limit with people these past few years; women, family, coworkers, managers, police, friends, customer service reps, neighbors, you name it.. Even though I have quite a bit of muscle I also, unfortunately, I have a very young, innocent looking face. People look at me and assume I am a pushover. But I strike swiftly, sharply, and logically with my facts in everything I do. People do not see that coming, and it really frazzles then and gets them angry. Better them than me!

I have learned that there is no substitution for the value in recognizing these toxic people who will keep shooting you with slime, just like the ghosts in the movie Ghostbusters. RECOGNIZE THEM AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE.

They will push you just to escalate things to where it LOOKS like they have prevailed over you in a given situation, no matter what facts they attempt to use.

Eventually, if they push you hard enough and you loose your cool, you will LOOK like the looser no matter what. They know this, they know you are right and they are wrong, but if you LOOK like the looser and they LOOK like the winner, and they can convince others that you have no credibility because you have such a bad temper, then more than likely they have "won" and you have "lost".

Fellas, you MUST always stay calm no matter what...Easier said than done, but you must do it..

You MUST tire these people out at their own game until they get so frustrated with you that they fly off the handle, because they know that their facts are false so the only way they can "win" is if you loose your cool..

OR, if possible, stop and say "we will just have to agree to disagree and move on because I am not debating this with you anymore".

Never resort to getting angry.. It's a trap. Learn other methods to deal with these toxic slime balls and you will always prevail.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Can totally relate.Thanks
 
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