"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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the ULTIMATE question that no one discusses here!!

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skip2mylou781 said:
b)have that 1 girl who u are in love with and be with her and only her, without being a player at all, but have ur romantic happiness dependant on her
we all dream of B... however, when we think of it and run into girl we assume that you found in, but most likely you havent and thats how guys turn AFC.. therefore better go with option a. and if a girl sticks around for 10 years you will say to yourself "hmmm, this girl is actually what im looking for"
then you start turning into B with her, and she leaves you cuase she was in love with the guy that was in A
hahha
therefore be as found in A and enjoy yourself.. be in charge... have her risk it, not you...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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skip2mylou781 said:
b)have that 1 girl who u are in love with and be with her and only her, without being a player at all, but have ur romantic happiness dependant on her
we all dream of B... however, when we think of it and run into girl we assume that you found in, but most likely you havent and thats how guys turn AFC.. therefore better go with option a. and if a girl sticks around for 10 years you will say to yourself "hmmm, this girl is actually what im looking for"
then you start turning into B with her, and she leaves you cuase she was in love with the guy that was in A
hahha
therefore be as found in A and enjoy yourself.. be in charge... have her risk it, not you...
 

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Personally, id have to go with A as of now(hence my signature), but just like the post above me, im pretty sure that we all dream of being with a B but are way too afraid of getting hurt....sucks right?

im 20 btw
 

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"I don't wanna be a playa no more..."

Age: 26

Option: B (that's what I have right now)

I refuse to go into protection mode. My heart is strong and can take heartbreak.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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B would be awesome, but in today's world (America) I dont think its a possibility. Its too easy to get divorced and it's so common its almost expected.

I say **** as many of them as you can, then settle down, if you feel so inclined ,with the girl you can ''trust'' the most (**Snicker*** SNicker***):crackup:
 

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skip2mylou781 said:
i believe ya!!! ive had bisexual gf's before, and they never wanted any 3somes! stupid fake dykes lol
Same here, for whatever reason, I'm a friggen' bi-girl magnet. I've had six short- to long-term relatinships since college, and four of the girls were bi, only the current one has had a couple of threesomes (the rest had simply had relationships/experences with girls) and she has issues with doing it again. It's a point of contention with me, since she's done it before with people... the others, I respected their lack of interest on let them off the hook so to speak. Should I use this as a deciding factor with this relationship? The way I see it, is that I'm going to try it at least once before I die, so if this becomes a block here, I guess I need to move it out of the way, eh? :confused:
 

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Definitely A, unless I change my mind at some point.
I don't actually believe common sense constitutes as "playing it safe". When you get burnt on the fire your wounds heal, but you never put your hand in the fire again.

Why should things be different with your heart?

.... Oops, it felt kind of wrong when you read that, didn't it? That's it because I said it wrong in order to make a point. Your heart does not really get burnt, that's BS. But both of us know the expression, because both of us have watched/read love stories. To translate the expression we relate to the sourse. But the source (the love story) gives the opposite message to what I say in the sentence. In a way, I'm saying "Forget that BS about chosing 1 woman, by the way do you remember how important it is to chose 1 woman?".

Anyway, why should things be different with your dating life?
 
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That one woman. And woman being the key word. I think girls need to grow like us DJ's. That's when they are truely worth our time and effort. Even if it doesn't work out, they need to be a woman. I'm 32..btw

ADKdj
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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well pretty much i'd go for the serious gf... like i enjoy fvcking and will continue to do so until i find one, but i'm not too set on any one girl if she doesn't make a good enough impression on me. otherwise i go after more than one girl. so while i like being a player, i also know that its a great thing to experience being with one person that you have an awesome time with. so while i am pretty upfront about either being serious or seeing where things are going, i don't generally make a deal out of what they say.
 
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