"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The ULTIMATE Guide to Beating/Avoiding Oneitis! Revised Edition

anonymousguy

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You know what the real solution is?

A GIRLFRIEND

Unfortunately, this is easier said than done. But who cares? :D
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Great feeling, waking up, thinking about the girl that I just found out has a boyfriend, and then reading this.
Thank you very much
 

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what is some "feel" good music to get over her?

Straight after the break up I got into Radiohead and Jimmy Eat World but that stuff really got me depressed big time. I listened to some metal like In Flames and Lamb of God when I was in the angry phase.

Now I just want to listen to music that just calms me and keeps a smile on my face no matter how hard I try to force it.. infront of others.

I'm not ready to forgive my oneitis after she cheated in the end, but I need to move on because the anxiety isn't healthy and I keep checking myspace to see who she's profile commenting or leaving photo comments on guys I know she's interested in (exs included).

*One tip* I would contribute to this thread is block her SN on AIM/MSNMessanger/Yahoo Messanger/ICQ so you're not tempted to message her or see what her away message says.. Same goes for her roommate or closest friend. I know I've been at fault for unblocking her and reblocking her at times just to see what she's up to.
 

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Upbeat music to me is house/funky house/dance etc...

Something with a happy, fast, funky beat.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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very good

"Think of previous oneitis'"

thats the best point you make. everytime i get infatuated with a girl i always think stupid things like shes the only girl for me, i can only ever be happy with her, shlt like that. but once i get over it, i always think what an idiot i was.

its easier said than done though. i actually have oneitis right now with a girl im casualing a few times a week. and im always thinking things like dam i want more than just sex with this girl, i want love, i want a serious relationship.

reading things like what you posted, and thinking of past mistakes always snaps me back to reality just in time and stops me ****ing up a good thing. so thanks!
 

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That's it in a nutshell. You have to move forward, looking to the past will not help you in anyway, shape or form & if you continually pester the said woman you will just get into trouble. After you blow it the only way things can possibly work out is if down the line you've changed so much that if you ever run into her and she see's the progress you've made, that she might give you a chance. Until you're just really hurting yourself and it's needless. Beautiful women aren't in short supply, go make connections with some other one's and live you're life man.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This is the perfect pill for the suffering one-itis victim. Very very well done!
 
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