The UK Thread

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Austin Allegro

Master Don Juan

Apr 10, 2004

Originally posted by Adam See
Fifth Avenue in Manchester! Could do with a place like that in Chesterfield. House parties are great for meeting people without the whole club scene present.

Hello Tweak, fellow OcUKer.

Mr See, you're absolutely right. I find parties much better than clubs, because you can just go up to any woman and say something like 'so how do you know Jim' (or whoever is the host) and it's perfectly acceptable. If you try any kind of cold approach in a UK club or pub, a lot of the time you'll be blown out.

Plus parties are free to get in, the booze is cheap and you don't have to listen to sh(te club music...showing my age here!

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.