djjizzyjeff
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What was the turning point in your life from bitter to better? (For those who've truly experienced it.)
Mine came when I was 21. I'd recently gotten dumped by my ex whom though I did put a lot into the relationship I was partially at fault for her leaving as I was completely clueless in ways about chicks and at times like it or not they will leave you for someone better.
At that point. For literally about THREE YEARS. I was the most negative, bitter, angry, frustrated, obssessed, clown that would put the top type in these catagories of this forum to shame. I'd keep repeating the same sh1t to people, constantly focused on all chicks cheat, are slvts, guys cheat, everyone cheats etc. Nothing positive ever. I was so negative I think I'd gotten everyone around me sick of hearing me..Till I got sick of hearing myself..
The turning point came THREE YEARS after I'd gotten dumped after a three year relationship with my ex. I remember I was in the bathroom getting ready to go out and I'd looked up at the mirror, looked into my own eyes and thought to myself: "Dude. What is wrong with you? Shut the fvck up already"
From that point on I wasn't going to drive myself insane over nonsense, knew that many chicks may cheat, but I couldn't possibly say they all would. (If you think everyone will cheat on you. They will. Self fulfilling prophecy.) I knew my confidence was shot, focused for a bit on where I'd gone wrong (reflected on the relationship and how I could learn and grow from it with the next person and leave it in the past.)
There are simply no guarantees in life. You can't control others. You will still "fail" later on but use that "failure" as a learning tool to reflect and grow from (not get your confidence down and turn you to a bitter battler of the world). Try not to keep repeating the same mistakes. If you do you have no one to blame but YOURSELF. Ex: dating one sh1thead after another when you KNOW you are seeing red flags but trip over yourself to "win" the "prize" to "prove" something to yourself regardless. If you let others control you they have WON.
I agree with a lot of even the bitter or even realists on the site to a point but you need a counter balance or you're going to become even more worse of a person and go bitter batsh1t insane.
You simply have to be the best you can be in all aspects of life. Not just typing it out for a little for the moment "feel good". There's still going to be many bumps in the road of life for you REGARDLESS of how much you improve. Just be the best you can be for yourself and not need someone to "complete" you as if you're a broken person to begin with. Just to be a part of your world and you of theirs till you both possibly grow and become one.
Life would be extremely boring if everything always went our way and only our way.
It's good to look at the bad and the good on here. (Learn from both but don't let things even if you completely agree with ruin you as a person.) Take advice that seems sound to you. Implement it. Work things out for the better.
You're a friggin man for chrissakes.
Mine came when I was 21. I'd recently gotten dumped by my ex whom though I did put a lot into the relationship I was partially at fault for her leaving as I was completely clueless in ways about chicks and at times like it or not they will leave you for someone better.
At that point. For literally about THREE YEARS. I was the most negative, bitter, angry, frustrated, obssessed, clown that would put the top type in these catagories of this forum to shame. I'd keep repeating the same sh1t to people, constantly focused on all chicks cheat, are slvts, guys cheat, everyone cheats etc. Nothing positive ever. I was so negative I think I'd gotten everyone around me sick of hearing me..Till I got sick of hearing myself..
The turning point came THREE YEARS after I'd gotten dumped after a three year relationship with my ex. I remember I was in the bathroom getting ready to go out and I'd looked up at the mirror, looked into my own eyes and thought to myself: "Dude. What is wrong with you? Shut the fvck up already"
From that point on I wasn't going to drive myself insane over nonsense, knew that many chicks may cheat, but I couldn't possibly say they all would. (If you think everyone will cheat on you. They will. Self fulfilling prophecy.) I knew my confidence was shot, focused for a bit on where I'd gone wrong (reflected on the relationship and how I could learn and grow from it with the next person and leave it in the past.)
There are simply no guarantees in life. You can't control others. You will still "fail" later on but use that "failure" as a learning tool to reflect and grow from (not get your confidence down and turn you to a bitter battler of the world). Try not to keep repeating the same mistakes. If you do you have no one to blame but YOURSELF. Ex: dating one sh1thead after another when you KNOW you are seeing red flags but trip over yourself to "win" the "prize" to "prove" something to yourself regardless. If you let others control you they have WON.
I agree with a lot of even the bitter or even realists on the site to a point but you need a counter balance or you're going to become even more worse of a person and go bitter batsh1t insane.
You simply have to be the best you can be in all aspects of life. Not just typing it out for a little for the moment "feel good". There's still going to be many bumps in the road of life for you REGARDLESS of how much you improve. Just be the best you can be for yourself and not need someone to "complete" you as if you're a broken person to begin with. Just to be a part of your world and you of theirs till you both possibly grow and become one.
Life would be extremely boring if everything always went our way and only our way.
It's good to look at the bad and the good on here. (Learn from both but don't let things even if you completely agree with ruin you as a person.) Take advice that seems sound to you. Implement it. Work things out for the better.
You're a friggin man for chrissakes.
