"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The truth shall set you free; I'm in a BAAD situation..

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Ok guys,

A lot of you will flame me for this ****. I deserve it.

I'm going to see this girl for the 3rd time. Everything is going smoothly. Lots of trust and rapport.

Here's the thing; when I met her, I did the whole "tourist" act and said I'm from Chicago (we're in Canada) which is complete BS. The day I met her I said I didn't know what to do so she spent the evening showing me around town. Also I told her I don't speak french at all where in fact I am perfectly bilingual.

I somehow managed to keep up the act pretty well throughout the whole time we have seen each other.

Tomorrow though, the day 3 is going to be in my town, the town I live in. and if I run into someone I know and they address me in french, I am ****ED.

I gotta break it to her somehow. How do you guys think she'll react? Should I sit her down and do the whole cliché "listen... I gotta tell you something" or should I play it off in a light-hearted manner and hope she'll do the same? When is the right moment to do this?

man I feel sooooo bad about this. ****.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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smooth guy

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Tell her it was too cute seeing her touring you around town you couldn't resist. :)
 

spider_007

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ha ha ha ha.......nice one dude.

that's a major lie dude.....chicks hate liers.

good luck with that
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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spider_007 said:
ha ha ha ha.......nice one dude.

that's a major lie dude.....chicks hate liers.

good luck with that
Yeah, guys should think out their entire "master plan" when it's based on deception. This could end up as being a waste of three dates. Hopefully he's demonstrated some worth over the previous two dates that may help mitigate the issue. Either that or avoid all of his friends whenever they are together from this day forward. :rolleyes:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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One: When you see her, burst out perfect French, and mention it was so cute that she taught you well.

Two: Thanks for the tour, let me show you around!
 

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hauhuahua that's why u shouldn't lie mate! but u CAN'T tell her that in a serious way.. make fun of her... follow Docs options... or next time u see her, pretend u are from another country, that u are obviously not... just to make fun of her..
 
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Just make light of it - you accomplished your goal - which was to get her to know you a bit and to make an impression - if she is interested in you she'll just laugh it off. This is not enough to label you a liar because it was an official pick-up line - and as long as you tell her the truth ASAP!
 

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just say you didn't expect to see her again and you were entertaining yourself, and you have to be honest now because you're getting to know her. leave it at that, don't take it too seriously and then she won't either. tell her ASAP and laugh it off, i second LMS
 

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you're f*cked.

even if she's ok with it, she'll hold it over your head moving forward. you just gave away all your power nad made her hte prize by lying to her to get her attention.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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tell her that when you speak french you get a huge erection, and didn't want to scare her off. If she smiles and says something in french, fvck her right then and there.
 
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