Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The truth or a flake?

tryst type

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Hi guys, I just had my first in a long time (potential) flake. Curious about opinions.

Let me preface it by saying, we started chatting from OKC two days ago, quick number exchange, a really good rapport 15 min phone chat and then a date set up for today at 7:30 in which I was invited to her place.

Here's the text exchange 20 min ago:

Her: Hi! Would you be mad if we have to change the date?
Me: Why
Her: One of my team members needs me to fix a bunch of screw ups for her and she isn't available till 7.
Me: Ok
Her: I can call you when I finish but i would rather you do something fun and we can meet up tomorrow or another day that works. Is that cool?
Me: Sure. Get in touch
Her: I have a part-time make up business and i have a couple of people under me - they are my team members and i have an obligation to them. That is the only reason i have to do this.
(10 minutes later)
Her: You are the best!
Me: Okie doke

Reason I'm wondering if she's being honest is she went into great detail after the fact that she cancelled for tonight, but maybe she sensed I didn't care and wanted some form of validation?
 

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AW1983

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IMO that is not a flake whatsoever man. She notified you adequately beforehand, explained why, and offered to reschedule. That's not flaking, that's what adults do when life changes their plans unexpectedly. I wouldn't trip.
 

tryst type

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AlphaWhiskey said:
IMO that is not a flake whatsoever man. She notified you adequately beforehand, explained why, and offered to reschedule. That's not flaking, that's what adults do when life changes their plans unexpectedly. I wouldn't trip.
Yeah true, good thing I didn't lose my cool in my responses like in my earlier days.
 

Wilko

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Now, if this was the third "shift change", however legitimate, at that point, you would still have to say, this girl's schedule is completely incompatible with my own, and next her for purely pragmatic reasons.
 

tryst type

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Now should I just wait for her to suggest another day or should I?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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disgustipated

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Per anti dumps machine, I believe he suggests suggesting one more date and if she flakes or even puts up.a.stink, you bail. How lenient you are with that is kinda up to you. Id give it another go, if she wasn't 100 percent compliant then bounce. It'd be a.nice gesture on her part if she went out of her way to let you know the exact moment she's free next time to meet, shows she legit sorry about the initial flake, but don't expect it.
 

disgustipated

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And hell no u don't wait for her, you're the man, you lead. You like to do ****? Invite her to come along. She's in no position of being picky since she flaked.
 
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