LIARS OFTEN REVERT TO DENIAL WHEN QUESTIONED and use/begin phrases like: “to be completely honest, to tell you the truth, quite frankly, ordinarily, etc”
THEY MAY TRY TO DIFUSE A SITUATION WITH HUMOR BY OPENLY ADMITTING GUILT-“ya honey I am having an affair with my secretary, were actually getting married soon” and I just won the lottery too”
THEY TEND TO SUPPLY MORE DETAILS THEN ASKED-yes I did have lunch with Lisa, we shared a cheese pizza at the Olive Garden, it was raining on a Tuesday.
THEY SPEW RETORICAL QUESTIONS WITH SO CALLED LOGIC-if I was having an affair do you really think I’d be stupid enough to give her my home number. If I did steal the money why would I show up at work the next day?
CHANGE THE SUBJECT OR DEFLECT THE GUILT TRIP ON TO YOU-I can’t believe you are bringing this up again, are you accusing me of cheating, we already discussed this, here we go again, etc.
BODY LANGUAGE-liars tend to recall info by moving the eyes up & to the right. SHIFTY-touching of the nose, head frequently.
BUFFER ZONE-they tend to put a space between them and you. Folding of the arms, crossing legs, leaning back in a chair, turning chair around, moving chair away from you, holding of an object, etc
SET A TRAP-make up a lie and observe how they answer. It’s a double-edged sword conundrum. If they lie they burn, if they claim no knowledge they are suspect. Example: they inform you they were at work, so U say I heard there was a fire at your work on the news….was there any damage. Obviously U made this up, but pay close attention to their answer. Some resort to an alibi like; “I was at work but then we moved to another location”
3 STATEMENTS-listen and look for association to “three” statements. Sally, Jill, and I, Me and my two friends, first we went to this club, then we left there and went to….and ended up at. There were these 3 guys, etc.
AVERAGE PERSON-distorts the truth approximately 3 times for every 10 minutes of conversation. Thats just the average person!!!!
RIGID REPETITION OF QUESTION-they start with NO then repeat the question. Question: have you ever cheated on your girlfriend. Answer: NO, I have never cheated on my girlfriend.
VIRTUAL LIES-less visual indicators makes it a less accurate. On the phone-you may have to incorporate a voice analyzer, listen for incongruecies in their statements, keywords, etc. On the net-look for keywords, incongruency, time lags in texts, I.M.`s,, deflection, minimizing.
THEY MAY TRY TO DIFUSE A SITUATION WITH HUMOR BY OPENLY ADMITTING GUILT-“ya honey I am having an affair with my secretary, were actually getting married soon” and I just won the lottery too”
THEY TEND TO SUPPLY MORE DETAILS THEN ASKED-yes I did have lunch with Lisa, we shared a cheese pizza at the Olive Garden, it was raining on a Tuesday.
THEY SPEW RETORICAL QUESTIONS WITH SO CALLED LOGIC-if I was having an affair do you really think I’d be stupid enough to give her my home number. If I did steal the money why would I show up at work the next day?
CHANGE THE SUBJECT OR DEFLECT THE GUILT TRIP ON TO YOU-I can’t believe you are bringing this up again, are you accusing me of cheating, we already discussed this, here we go again, etc.
BODY LANGUAGE-liars tend to recall info by moving the eyes up & to the right. SHIFTY-touching of the nose, head frequently.
BUFFER ZONE-they tend to put a space between them and you. Folding of the arms, crossing legs, leaning back in a chair, turning chair around, moving chair away from you, holding of an object, etc
SET A TRAP-make up a lie and observe how they answer. It’s a double-edged sword conundrum. If they lie they burn, if they claim no knowledge they are suspect. Example: they inform you they were at work, so U say I heard there was a fire at your work on the news….was there any damage. Obviously U made this up, but pay close attention to their answer. Some resort to an alibi like; “I was at work but then we moved to another location”
3 STATEMENTS-listen and look for association to “three” statements. Sally, Jill, and I, Me and my two friends, first we went to this club, then we left there and went to….and ended up at. There were these 3 guys, etc.
AVERAGE PERSON-distorts the truth approximately 3 times for every 10 minutes of conversation. Thats just the average person!!!!
RIGID REPETITION OF QUESTION-they start with NO then repeat the question. Question: have you ever cheated on your girlfriend. Answer: NO, I have never cheated on my girlfriend.
VIRTUAL LIES-less visual indicators makes it a less accurate. On the phone-you may have to incorporate a voice analyzer, listen for incongruecies in their statements, keywords, etc. On the net-look for keywords, incongruency, time lags in texts, I.M.`s,, deflection, minimizing.