"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The truth about confidence with women

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A lot of you guys are PUAs and not players. By that, you are logical, robotic, nerdy and stuck in your ways of A1, A2, A3.

To those guys, what I am about to say is going to fly above your heads. It won't compile because it goes against everything you've been brainwashed by the PUA community.

The PUA community says "In order to get women, you need to be confident."

But, it leaves out the answer to the question, "how do you become confident?"

Since most of you guys are so analytical and logical, let's think about it logically.

Let's say you want to become good at football and you want to make it on the football team.

How do you become better at football? You PLAY football.

Let's flip the same on the next issue:
Let's say you want to become better with women and you want to lay a lot of women.

How do you become better with women? You FVCK more women.

That's right. You don't sit in your room and meditate. You don't go around sitting on the internet learning and memorizing more bullsh1t scripts. You don't sit there reading people's posts.

No. You actually build confidence by going out there and banging more owmen.

I remember when I was new to the PUA community, and I used to spend all my time trying to figure out how to be confident enough to succeed with women. I should have just gone out and done my best instead of reading more crap on the internet.

It's very common to this new-age of thinking that "CONFIDENCE COMES FROM THE INSIDE". Yes, it does. But you need to build it by fvcking a lot of women.

You simply won't get more confident from meditating. I've tried everything. My friends who are still siting around meditating every day are left far behind me in the game.

At first you are gonna go out there in real life and try to pick up a few girls. You will mess up. Several times. And then you will learn, step by step. Until one day you will figure out the real way to go.

For me a lot of it was trial and error. But eventually something worked for me and I stuck to it to this day.

And at first it worked on one woman.

And then it worked on another woman a few months later.

And then a month later it worked on another woman.

And a few weeks later it worked on another woman.

And I kept doing it and doing it. Eventually my confidence rose to such a level that I have not had a problem attracting women in the past 2 years.

Like that old saying in the Bibble:

"He who has, shall be given more. And he who has not, shall have it taken away".

Get pvssy and you will get even more. Sit there and whack off, and that's what you will be doing for the rest of your life.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You're right.But that's what has killed me internally, all this time gone by,just jacking it most of the time,rather than going out and seeing what works and what doesn't for me. I could be so further ahead than I am.
 

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A lot of you guys are PUAs and not players. By that, you are logical, robotic, nerdy and stuck in your ways of A1, A2, A3.

And how about the supposed countless number of women who spread their legs to PUA's? What does that make them?
 

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A lot of you guys are PUAs and not players. By that, you are logical, robotic, nerdy and stuck in your ways of A1, A2, A3.

And how about the supposed countless number of women who spread their legs to PUA's? What does that make them?
Anybody can get laid. Everyone can't get paid.

The point of it is....get out there and try. Experience life. I got shot down by an HB10 last night, she was bytchy as hell. But, she was with a cool guy and some more girls who was into the music we do. We hung out and after a while miss bytchy hb10 started to chill out. She even offered me some high grade weed (which I passed on). They all invited me out for NYE and promised that a bunch of their hot friends would be there. It's about getting out there and trying.
 

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Anybody can get laid. Everyone can't get paid.

The point of it is....get out there and try. Experience life. I got shot down by an HB10 last night, she was bytchy as hell. But, she was with a cool guy and some more girls who was into the music we do. We hung out and after a while miss bytchy hb10 started to chill out. She even offered me some high grade weed (which I passed on). They all invited me out for NYE and promised that a bunch of their hot friends would be there. It's about getting out there and trying.


It's very hard for someone like myself. Especially when all the years of repeated yet occasional failure tells you that you're not deserving of anything. If there is no truth to this then how can I bypass such a self defeating state of mind?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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^^
Maybe you need to lower your standards for now. Go for some 3's and 4's, and work your way up.
 

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CapedCrusader08 said:
You're right.But that's what has killed me internally, all this time gone by,just jacking it most of the time,rather than going out and seeing what works and what doesn't for me. I could be so further ahead than I am.
But you are where you are and there's no use in regretting what's happened. You're only in control of the present moment, so do what you can to better yourself!
 

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You can sit home and cry and whine over the internet but that isn't gonna help anything.

Just go out there.

Especially on a night like this when every woman hates to be alone.

No matter how old you are. 15 or 55. it doesn't matter.

get some success for yourself and set yourself on the right path.
 
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BobMo' said:
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Maybe you need to lower your standards for now. Go for some 3's and 4's, and work your way up.

I don't think you have to sink that low. Start with your own version of a 6. Someone that you can tell to get better make up and better clothes whom will blow up to a 7 or 8.

You guys do know that make it is half of her beauty these days. That is why they spend so much money on it.

Get yourself the starter ho's while your building your confidence up. Get a 6 that you can turn into a 7 or 8 and then get a 7 and then a 8 and work all 3 of them as your working on yourself.

Many of you guys are nerdy. Time to hit the gym and get a body. Time for you to dress like real men instead of scrubs in tennis shoes and faded dirty jeans and printed teeshirts.

What you need to do is wake up to reality. In truth to get those hot women you gotta step up your own selves.

As for the joker who said all those women opening their legs to pua's...keep dreaming.

The going rate is still 1 out of 100. And most of you guys don't have what it takes to approach 100 to get that 1 lay.

Mostly it is the guys who happen to be half way good looking are getting laid.
 

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I don't think you have to sink that low. Start with your own version of a 6. Someone that you can tell to get better make up and better clothes whom will blow up to a 7 or 8.

You guys do know that make it is half of her beauty these days. That is why they spend so much money on it.

Get yourself the starter ho's while your building your confidence up. Get a 6 that you can turn into a 7 or 8 and then get a 7 and then a 8 and work all 3 of them as your working on yourself.

Many of you guys are nerdy. Time to hit the gym and get a body. Time for you to dress like real men instead of scrubs in tennis shoes and faded dirty jeans and printed teeshirts.

What you need to do is wake up to reality. In truth to get those hot women you gotta step up your own selves.

As for the joker who said all those women opening their legs to pua's...keep dreaming.

The going rate is still 1 out of 100. And most of you guys don't have what it takes to approach 100 to get that 1 lay.

Mostly it is the guys who happen to be half way good looking are getting laid.


See the thing is man that even the girls that I would consider to be an hb6 are conceited as hell and I know it's not just me. I even see fat ugly girls that think they're deserving of a Brad Pitt kind of guy. Also I'm kind of broke at the moment so how can you work two to three different girls at once without having any money? I'm kind of confused. I know it could be done but I don't have any game like that.

Oh and I would be that joker that made that comment earlier on. I've been told time and time again that looks and money don't matter as long as you have game. Now I'm hearing the contrary that looks actually DO matter. Again I'm confused man.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yeah, tonight's a great night to go out but who wants to go out by themselves? Not all of us have friends who can/will go.
 

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Yeah, tonight's a great night to go out but who wants to go out by themselves? Not all of us have friends who can/will go.

Especially if you have very few friends and those few don't have the balls to speak to any women.
 

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Yeah, tonight's a great night to go out but who wants to go out by themselves? Not all of us have friends who can/will go.

Especially if you have very few friends and those few don't have the balls to speak to any women.
And friends who are married where going out is not even an option. Or friends who are all working.
 
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