Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The True Ideal DJ Mindset for Oneitis

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It should go something like this- The Mindset of THE MAN:

I can go out and attract any cute and hot women anywhere, anytime. So why should I let one particular girl bother me? I've got a life which I'm passionate about and I have a purpose and mission to fulfill, so I'm not going to let this one girl bother me. I'm going to continue to grow as a person and continue having fun and being me- THE MAN.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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works for me.
 

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:rockon: This stuff below isnt mine, i just thought it would be nice to post it up for you guys. It helped me in the past to get over my oneitis

The Trap of the Closed Door

There are millions upon millions of chances, choices, and opportunities we as humans have. It is impossible to take advantage of every one. Most of the time we don’t even see a hundredth of them. When one door in your life closes, always remember there are a million more open ones. Always remember that there are still millions of doors that are always open in your life. Focusing on that one closed door will waste your time on this planet. Every thought you spend on that closed door will bring you closer to the end of your life. Look at the possibilities, not the impossibilities. Why worry about something that never was meant to be? Something that never could be? Never forget that closed door, it will make a nice memory, but do not focus all of your attention to it. It’s pointless, don’t let this trap in life hold you back.

The Trap of that Perfect Girl

You have an idea of a woman. We all do. There is no such thing as a perfect woman. You must understand that there are so many wonderful females out there that there will be a ton of “perfect” ones. You must keep an open mind when searching for the one, or you will blind yourself of what you really want. That perfect female is just another person, but a person who you have literally forced yourself into loving because you believe you must love anyone who has long brown hair, a cute face, a nice body, etc. Keep an open mind while in the world of females. You’ll find the one, but quit forcing yourself to love.
 

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QUIT FORCING YOURSELF TO LOVE???!!!!!

are you nuts! yer human.. yer a man. you will love. if you kill that.. you will never find the perfect one!!!!!!

just remember that it is ok to love... but you must be strong at the sametime to give up anything at anytime without any qualms.. thats the trick. to love and be able to leave. unfortunately, most men can't do this.

so don't block yourself. have fun.. and love, but remember to leave when needed.

soccer128 said:
:rockon: This stuff below isnt mine, i just thought it would be nice to post it up for you guys. It helped me in the past to get over my oneitis

The Trap of the Closed Door

There are millions upon millions of chances, choices, and opportunities we as humans have. It is impossible to take advantage of every one. Most of the time we don’t even see a hundredth of them. When one door in your life closes, always remember there are a million more open ones. Always remember that there are still millions of doors that are always open in your life. Focusing on that one closed door will waste your time on this planet. Every thought you spend on that closed door will bring you closer to the end of your life. Look at the possibilities, not the impossibilities. Why worry about something that never was meant to be? Something that never could be? Never forget that closed door, it will make a nice memory, but do not focus all of your attention to it. It’s pointless, don’t let this trap in life hold you back.

The Trap of that Perfect Girl

You have an idea of a woman. We all do. There is no such thing as a perfect woman. You must understand that there are so many wonderful females out there that there will be a ton of “perfect” ones. You must keep an open mind when searching for the one, or you will blind yourself of what you really want. That perfect female is just another person, but a person who you have literally forced yourself into loving because you believe you must love anyone who has long brown hair, a cute face, a nice body, etc. Keep an open mind while in the world of females. You’ll find the one, but quit forcing yourself to love.
 
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