"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The True Gentleman

Magma

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I ran across this awhile ago, and thought I would share it with all of you. It is THE embodiment of what a Don Juan is to me personally. So here it is:

The True Gentleman

The true gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man concious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiorty or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virture safe.

Respect.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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This won't get you girls.
 

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That is funny to see here.

That is the motto of the Fraternity Sigma Alpha Epsilon. I used to be a member and let me tell you, it is thrown around at parties where a initiate (pledge trying to join the fraternity) does a keg stand and is then asked immediately after to recite the TG (True Gentlemen). Nobody really takes it that seriously but whenever somebody wants to prove a point or make their case, they always use the True Gentleman as a support for their cause. Ie. My cause is what the TG is all about.

It will not get you girls however, as I can attest to having seen 100's of pledges recite it, become brothers and still not get laid even if they strive to uphold the ethos of it.

I'm no longer part of the fraternity btw. :)
 

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I never said it will get you girls. I just feel that being a Don Juan has many aspects, and qualities I admire in people and DJ's can be found in this short essay. That's interesting, Charm. I had no idea it was used in a fraternity. It sounds as if the essay has been pounded to death in your fraternity, invariably reducing its impact. Now that I think about it, I found it on a sheet of paper in the library in undergrad. Huh. Go figure.

I think the few responses so far are indicative of the many personalities that interpret the differing meanings of a Don Juan. I may have one definition, someone else may have another. That's fine. I feel that the path to DJism is a different journey for everyone. Although I do think the desired end is same for everyone: to live an enriched life with things/persons that make you happy. Some guys want a girlfriend, others just want bang as many b1tches as possible. Some guys just want to modify or enhance their lives through self-improvement. Whatever the case may be, I respect that.

Sarge on, brethren.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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This won't get you girls.
Yes it will. It won't get you all girls, but it will get you some. That's fine, though, because the guys who try to get ALL girls just wind up depressed in the end.

A man who always follows his beliefs and speaks the truth is a true man, and he's the only one who can acquire high-quality women. (Obviously, his boldness, virtue, and self-respect must extend to the realm of women as well as men; otherwise, he's just a halfway-noble chump.)
 

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Just because it's their motto doesn't mean they follow it.

Kinda like the motto of the U.S. is "In God we Trust." :rolleyes:
 

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SaucyBoy said:
This won't get you girls.
Yes it will.... well in the UK it does. And when I visited for a vacation in the USA, I had women of all ages throwing themselves at me. I was totally amazed. They were attracted to my true gentleman ways. (but the US guys thought I was slightly gay - just because I was not one of the good old boys)) I left two weeks later after seven offers of marriage, a book full of phone numbers and several HB 9- 10s notches on my bedpost :cool:

And where I live, I have large 'fan' club of women, all after me. I love it. Forget being a bad or good boy, be a true gent and you can have as much (p0ussy as you like.

One of the most important things I was taught was respect - it's a two way street - you have to give more to get it. And always treat people with deep respect regardless of their position in life.

I have never chased after a woman - they chase (and fight) after me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Magma said:
I ran across this awhile ago, and thought I would share it with all of you. It is THE embodiment of what a Don Juan is to me personally. So here it is:

The True Gentleman

The true gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man concious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiorty or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virture safe.

Respect.
All well and good, but a guy like this won't be attractive unless he also knows how to have a good time. All those qualities, plus an almost child-like love for the world and good times is what really makes a Don Juan.
 

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SaucyBoy said:
This won't get you girls.
So are you saying that women find it attractive if you make a poor man conscious of his poverty? Or if you appear well in certain company, but not others? Or if your actions do not follow your words? I also find it hard to believe that women find it attractive when a man cringes before power. I don't know what kind of women you prefer, but they're obviously not the same caliber as I prefer.
 
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