"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The trials and tribulations of a "cute" monster

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My god, it all makes sense now.

I was out drinking with some chick I know (OUaT she was interested, but I got a little too trashed, f-ed it up, and got LJBFed, oh well), and she was still trying to tell me how "cute" I am. Cute with a "but".

"You're so cute. I mean, you have all these cute features (... rambles on for a while..), BUT, you're this big, scary guy (goes on again about how intimidating I am...).".

This clears things up, like. Girls (pretty much everybody), are either always getting out of my way, doing their best to avoid me, or telling me how "adorable" I am. ("You're so cute!", "You have the cutest baby face!", "You're like a big teddy bear!", blah blah).

It's like, whenever I get intimate like with a girl, it always gets so far, then they get kinda weirded out and say no. Is it that I look like a little kid, and they can't take me seriously, or are they afraid of me? Or both?

What the hell can I do to change this? It's not my clothes. I can wear anything and make it work (I had to do some modeling when I was a little kid. My face goes with everything.), and girls usually compliment me on my style. Should I try making myself look more thug like, or should I quit the powerlifting thing and start eating like a normal human being?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Soprano

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oh man i get this all the time, i know EXACTLY what you're talking about.

EXACTLY

I wish i had an answer lol
 
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