The "To-The-Point" approach

[Don_Joffe]

The approach:

1. Go up to a woman and say this “excuse me, but I couldnt help to notice you while walking here. I wanted to let you know that you are really beautiful."
2. Wait for her response which will always be good.

It shows that you are:
a) confident and you arent scared of taking risks
b) honest
c) letting the women forget their fear of being rejected by you
d) making the girls feel good about themselves

Does this approach work? I havent actually tried it before I question it though I think it makes you come across as desperate/need for her.

 

[someperson12]

it should work....I mean i sure wouldn't think a girl saying something like that to me is desperate. It should some confidence you know.......i'm sure most people wouldn't have guts to say that out loud to anyone

but i dunno it may depend on the age of the girl

 

[DrSoSuave]

Your approach seems to be based on theory. Theories are meant to be researched, yet that research hasn't been done and you have concluded without a trial with "your list" that it will show confidence, honesty, less rejection fear, and making the girl feel good about themselves.

Then you self contradict yourself by questioning yourself thinking it won't work.

Practice, and then come back.

 

[RoeCyris]

i have done something like this before (not alot but at least 2 times i can think of) and its no sure fire hit b/c there is no such thing. it depends on how you say it, obviously. one peice of advice thoa, dont stand around looking for a girl to say this to, it should be casual, random, and quick.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I'd say acyt like a man rather than be direct. You can tell somone's intentions just through bdoydlanguage you don't have to run your yap so much.

A couple of dumb questions will brek the ice.

 

[Mr. Mystery II]

Did you just watch Boomerang? LOL

Mr. Mystery

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

The approach starts off fine... you see a girl you are powerfully and stragely attracted to and you try to find the words. But you take it in the wrong direction by limiting your complement to her appearence. You just let her know that you like her for the exact same, simply dull reason that every other guy does. Sure, you show that you are genuine and confident... but you can do so much more!


I have employed this approach three times, always recieving wonderful reactions: while going about my business I saw a woman who I was instantly drawn to. I stopped whatever I was doing and walked up confidently...

Anth <at about 20 feet away> - Excuse me <at about 10 feet away, more audibly> - Excuse me! <at about 5 feet> - Hi! (they usually replied hi, with a confused look) I was ordering my drink when I noticed you... I, I just had to know your name (they blushed a few shades of red and said their name, one girl extended her hand and asked me her name right then, I ignored her and continued) <hername> you have this... amazing energy about you... ah, pardon me, my name is Anthony <last name>, it is wonderful to meet you (holding hands from our salutations, they would say it was nice to meet me, too) If you want to come sit with me for a minute... I would really like that (all 3 times they agreed)

You cant "force" this approach. Its just something you should have at the back of youre mind for those girls who really catch your eye.

 

[wind20mph]

Well I tried that once, she just walk away and didn't day anything....

So, how do you really approach? When do you approach? how do you behave when you approach? So many things to discover.

First, its not just abunch of techniques... its a complete attitude.

Second, Approach is depends on the situation you are in. Try a cold approach with someone walking on the street... So it might work with me but i don't get it when it works for you, always experiment and find out whats working in your favor.

Third,Keep a straight face. A serious face.

The approach depends on where you find yourself and what the girl is doing.

And by the way, This one's works for me but you can use it,

"Hi (Pasue for effect)... I noticed you here... and I realized that if I didn't say something... i'd never get to find what you were like... Other than that i already know."

Notice the dots, it means you pause.

That one were most women would likely response. But its a suggestion and it works for me. So it might work for you too.

Good luck everyone!

 

[Climax]

hmmm...

There is NO problem with this kind of approach that Don Joffe is suggesting... You see... Its not really about WHAT you say to the girl, its the WAY that you say it, you have to take things like body language, eye contact, you voice (u cant seem nervous), and it also depends WHERE you do it. If done right, the girl will be flattered that you came up to her and she WILL think of you are confident etc, but if done nervously, in the wrong place, and/or the way u say it seems weird, then the reaction from her will act accordingly. This is an interesting approach which I cant say that I have tried before, but I sure as hell plan to... So when I do (which will be soon), I'll let you guys know


Laterz...

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Well you need some rapport first. If you just walk up to a girl and basically tell her the only reason you approached her was because you thought she was good looking, she may not take too kindly to it. Some women will be flattered, but some women definetely won't be. You'll have better luck if you make the women feel more of an emotional bond through rapport than making her feel objectified.

 

[DeathDealer]

"Yo Jane, my name is John. UR HOT. GImme your number"

OH YEAH I AM SO CONFIDENT, WOOHOO.