"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The time has come, but what to do?

Cruz McBang

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Last week I txt the girl I really liked, I've liked her for months and I think she feels the same about me. I said something along the lines of "its obvious we both have feelings for each other" (there are obvious reasons which I won't bother going into now.)

Anyway, she txt back and said "we need to discuss things and go forward from there." We've arranged to meet up this thursday. I guess I just need some advice on what to do, or perhaps, I need some encouragment because deep down I know what I need to do. Its now or never, this tension between us has been going on for months and it needs to be resolved.

We are going with the intention of talking, but I dont want to start over-analysing a relationship before its even started. Should I be bold and just go for it, lean in and kiss her? or will that scare her off? she is shy and I don't know the best approach. Is there any tips at all anyone can give me? some special flirtation tip perhaps that will help?

Thanks,
Cruz
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I think you're working yourself up too much. Stop worrying so much. Her response sounds like she is genuinely interested in taking things further. If she is shy then coming on too strong may scare her off. On the other hand, sometimes shy people are just dieing to have a person take control and "come out with it." I'd show up and just go on your instincts. The key here is to calm yourself down as much as possible before hand. Try taking your mind off the situation for a while. If you're cool and collective everything will flow as it should.
 

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You're going to get the 'i like you, but ..' speech. She wouldn't have put it in the context that she did if she was going to be dating you. It's better you know this now.
 

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I've come to realise what is required in these cases; B A L L S. I'm setting myself up for a horrible rejection, but it's a risk worth taking.
 
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