"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The Three Tier Effect.

NobleMuscle

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Originally posted by AFK Protector
I disagree. Sounds like you've adopted some Calvinism and his predestination theory into your post. Guess what? Calvin was wrong....or just extremely pessimistic.

You CAN change your future.

You CAN change your "destiny."

You can do whatever you put your mind and will to.

You said that it would take "extreme amounts of energy" to change, and to just "accept your role . . . not everyone can be an alpha male."

Once again, I disagree. Go open your eyes and read "why life isn't fair" by A-Unit. LIFE ISN'T FAIR SO DO WHATEVER YOU CAN TO MAKE IT FAIR. YOU MUST STRIVE TO BE THE BEST. IF YOU DON'T TRY, YOU WILL NEVER BE YOUR BEST. DO NOT SETTLE FOR SECOND PLACE.

C'mon Capi, you're undermining the REAL DJ system here. If everyone COULD be #1, an alpha, or President, then becoming it would not be an accomplisment. Another thing would replace it as #1, or alpha. Understand? Good

Please do not listen to this pointless, albeit long post. We all know the steps, although what I pointed out nulls your first step. I will revise it for you:

Accept who you are currently, and who you were in the past, for that cannot be changed. Then find out what is wrong and improve on it, to become what you want to be, strive to be, should be:


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But what if you were destined to change your destiny?

EDIT: Forgot Smilie.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Nocturnal

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I say strive to make your greatest weakness (whatever is dragging you down the most) your greatest strength. That way, even if it takes a long time to correct, you will always be improving a key component of your character and if it takes time it will become habit. You can't become unbalanced, natural confidence does not emerge when you look great but have no conversation skills, or when you have a great sense of humor but no respect for other people.
 
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