"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The three second rule

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karusel said:
Also, the man you describe does not come here to seek advice.
Get off the internets and go get some *****!:rock:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I agree with what you're saying about building confidence to approach, but as you say you also need experience to "take on the champion". How do you get that experience? By approaching. How do you start approaching? For some guys they need some crutches like the 3 second rule.

I see the point of forced approaches as learning how to interact with women and retrain your AFC instincts, so when you do have yourself together and you meet a women you want to attract, you're ready to go.

It seems like a "chicken or the egg" argument the way you're putting it, but maybe I'm misinterpreting what you're saying.

NickBe said:
So what must one do to climb to the top of the ladder? learn to fight before you take on the champion.

It's not the movies things do not just fall into place. The 3 second rule looks fine in print on the pages of thousands of seduction books. In the field it work so well. I think it is damaging advice. Why not instead of forcing yourself into a situation that is over your head would you not first try to endow yourself with the power to handle that situation like a pro? If a person builds his confidence which is not a hard thing to do then he does not need to force himself to approach. You can build your confidence by working out, dressing well thousands of little things you can tweak and strengthen.
 

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You know what thinking about this more it really is a chicken and egg argument.
 
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