"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The three second rule

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karusel said:
Also, the man you describe does not come here to seek advice.
Get off the internets and go get some *****!:rock:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I agree with what you're saying about building confidence to approach, but as you say you also need experience to "take on the champion". How do you get that experience? By approaching. How do you start approaching? For some guys they need some crutches like the 3 second rule.

I see the point of forced approaches as learning how to interact with women and retrain your AFC instincts, so when you do have yourself together and you meet a women you want to attract, you're ready to go.

It seems like a "chicken or the egg" argument the way you're putting it, but maybe I'm misinterpreting what you're saying.

NickBe said:
So what must one do to climb to the top of the ladder? learn to fight before you take on the champion.

It's not the movies things do not just fall into place. The 3 second rule looks fine in print on the pages of thousands of seduction books. In the field it work so well. I think it is damaging advice. Why not instead of forcing yourself into a situation that is over your head would you not first try to endow yourself with the power to handle that situation like a pro? If a person builds his confidence which is not a hard thing to do then he does not need to force himself to approach. You can build your confidence by working out, dressing well thousands of little things you can tweak and strengthen.
 

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You know what thinking about this more it really is a chicken and egg argument.
 
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