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Don Juan
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OK, that's an intriguing title. Am I giving you the three steps guaranteed to get every woman begging for you, or the three perfect openers that will get you a 10 every time? Not quite. I'm going to elaborate on something I put into a recent post about SMS game that has been playing on my mind ever since I heard it. It has completely revolutionised the way I think about the game.
The quote in question was from a friend's girlfriend. It was that, "whenever a girl looks at dating a guy, she's looking at him as the potential father of her children."
Read that again and think about it. Read it one more time and think very carefully about what this means for you personally. The idea of fatherhood is probably something you have considered in an abstract sense, something that may happen at some vague time in the future, but not a concrete reality. Not yet.
For a woman on the other hand this is the purpose of her life. To quote the mighty Pook, "This is a life mission for her." Kids are not something she thinks will happen of their own accord in the future: they are, consciously or unconsciously, the driving force behind everything she does. You are happy to think about it when the time is right: she is already planning it.
So how, you ask, does this affect me? How does this knowledge make me into the badass PUA I've always wanted to be? Basically, it doesn't; at least not in the way you think. If you want that, go give the Mystery Method a few month's wages.
What this knowledge gives you is an understanding of the dynamics that underlie everything taught in the 'community'. It gives you the 'why' of why all these things work. You might know the 'how' as taught by a hundred 'gurus' and although you might have a lot of success, you will eventually find that something is missing, that all this is not quite gelling in some way that you can't quite define.
Take a fresh look with the above quote in mind. Do you see the holes in your game now? If you really want to be the man that women want, ask yourself this: If a girl was looking for someone to be the best all-round father for her future children, how likely would she be to pick you? Can you see now why C&F only gets you so far? Why canned openers work but only for a short time? Remember, she has several thousand years of evolutionary experience in weeding out fakers. You have a few months of learning some routines.
This is a tough one to accept. For me it has changed an awful lot of the way I think about women and about life in general. I used to take the advice to 'get a life' and 'do interesting things' as being things that would attract women of their own accord. Surely every woman likes a fit action man type with career plans and a good social life. Because that's just what women like, right?
Yes, they do. But because it is something inherently attractive? No, or maybe yes, but only at the most supericial level. Really, powerfully, subconsciously, she is attracted to these things because these are qualities that in some way or another speak of good genes and good prospects for potential offspring. This is always, always, how you are being evaluated by any girl who is not screaming drunk or suffering with serious 'issues'. This is what she is on this earth for first and foremost: to reproduce.
So what do you do with this knowledge? Make yourself the ideal man, father her children and live happily ever after? If that's your choice then, er... good luck, but its not mine. I've seen too many guys suckered into this and had the joy of life bled out of them. Do you decide that you don't want children now and focus your skills and energy in other directions? It's a valid decision, and not one I'd criticise: there are far more important things than chasing women in this life.
But me? I like women. I love having women in my life and I love sex even more. So is there a third option that doesn't involve paternity or celibacy? Of course. And these are the three keys to unlocking this secret:
1) Take a look at the earlier question again. If a girl was looking for the ideal all-round father for her future children, how likely would she be to pick you?
2) When you have answered the above honestly, look at the things that are lacking. Why would she not pick you? Be honest with yourself. You will probably find that if something is missing, it is something that would make you a more well-rounded, better off or morally upstanding person. Now take a step away from pickup, and look at how you can change this.
3) OK, you've done this. Now you must look at how you present yourself as potential father material. What do the things you do say about you in this context. Remember that she is looking at you as father material first, a person in your own right second. What does it say about you that you are passionate about your work and ambitious, that you have a good social circle or you play sport? That you are a passionate, friendly and healthy person, or that you will have money to support her, are well-adjusted enough to give her children emotional stability and can pass on good genes to her offspring? Think about this. And next time you are tempted to tell her about all the cool things you do and your philosophy on life etc remember that this is often of no consequence at all to her. In fact she may be wondering where she (and her future children) will fit into this whirlwind of activity. The bottom line is: are you dad material? When she asks about you, she is asking from this perspective and this perspective alone. When you answer, bear this in mind. These are the true 'attraction switches'.
I say again, remember this every time you talk to a woman. This is all she needs to know about you.
Does this make you a little queasy? It does me. In fact it scares the **** out of me. Not just the mercenary nature of it all but the power of these drives that are completely untouched by any of society's comforts or philosphies. This is survival and the will for life to continue at it's most raw but that is what we are dealing with, gentlemen. That is the power of nature, and we must learn to ride the wave or drown benath it. Those who drown under it are those who have failed to pass on their genes and already been weeded out. It is up to you whether or not you become one of them.
The quote in question was from a friend's girlfriend. It was that, "whenever a girl looks at dating a guy, she's looking at him as the potential father of her children."
Read that again and think about it. Read it one more time and think very carefully about what this means for you personally. The idea of fatherhood is probably something you have considered in an abstract sense, something that may happen at some vague time in the future, but not a concrete reality. Not yet.
For a woman on the other hand this is the purpose of her life. To quote the mighty Pook, "This is a life mission for her." Kids are not something she thinks will happen of their own accord in the future: they are, consciously or unconsciously, the driving force behind everything she does. You are happy to think about it when the time is right: she is already planning it.
So how, you ask, does this affect me? How does this knowledge make me into the badass PUA I've always wanted to be? Basically, it doesn't; at least not in the way you think. If you want that, go give the Mystery Method a few month's wages.
What this knowledge gives you is an understanding of the dynamics that underlie everything taught in the 'community'. It gives you the 'why' of why all these things work. You might know the 'how' as taught by a hundred 'gurus' and although you might have a lot of success, you will eventually find that something is missing, that all this is not quite gelling in some way that you can't quite define.
Take a fresh look with the above quote in mind. Do you see the holes in your game now? If you really want to be the man that women want, ask yourself this: If a girl was looking for someone to be the best all-round father for her future children, how likely would she be to pick you? Can you see now why C&F only gets you so far? Why canned openers work but only for a short time? Remember, she has several thousand years of evolutionary experience in weeding out fakers. You have a few months of learning some routines.
This is a tough one to accept. For me it has changed an awful lot of the way I think about women and about life in general. I used to take the advice to 'get a life' and 'do interesting things' as being things that would attract women of their own accord. Surely every woman likes a fit action man type with career plans and a good social life. Because that's just what women like, right?
Yes, they do. But because it is something inherently attractive? No, or maybe yes, but only at the most supericial level. Really, powerfully, subconsciously, she is attracted to these things because these are qualities that in some way or another speak of good genes and good prospects for potential offspring. This is always, always, how you are being evaluated by any girl who is not screaming drunk or suffering with serious 'issues'. This is what she is on this earth for first and foremost: to reproduce.
So what do you do with this knowledge? Make yourself the ideal man, father her children and live happily ever after? If that's your choice then, er... good luck, but its not mine. I've seen too many guys suckered into this and had the joy of life bled out of them. Do you decide that you don't want children now and focus your skills and energy in other directions? It's a valid decision, and not one I'd criticise: there are far more important things than chasing women in this life.
But me? I like women. I love having women in my life and I love sex even more. So is there a third option that doesn't involve paternity or celibacy? Of course. And these are the three keys to unlocking this secret:
1) Take a look at the earlier question again. If a girl was looking for the ideal all-round father for her future children, how likely would she be to pick you?
2) When you have answered the above honestly, look at the things that are lacking. Why would she not pick you? Be honest with yourself. You will probably find that if something is missing, it is something that would make you a more well-rounded, better off or morally upstanding person. Now take a step away from pickup, and look at how you can change this.
3) OK, you've done this. Now you must look at how you present yourself as potential father material. What do the things you do say about you in this context. Remember that she is looking at you as father material first, a person in your own right second. What does it say about you that you are passionate about your work and ambitious, that you have a good social circle or you play sport? That you are a passionate, friendly and healthy person, or that you will have money to support her, are well-adjusted enough to give her children emotional stability and can pass on good genes to her offspring? Think about this. And next time you are tempted to tell her about all the cool things you do and your philosophy on life etc remember that this is often of no consequence at all to her. In fact she may be wondering where she (and her future children) will fit into this whirlwind of activity. The bottom line is: are you dad material? When she asks about you, she is asking from this perspective and this perspective alone. When you answer, bear this in mind. These are the true 'attraction switches'.
I say again, remember this every time you talk to a woman. This is all she needs to know about you.
Does this make you a little queasy? It does me. In fact it scares the **** out of me. Not just the mercenary nature of it all but the power of these drives that are completely untouched by any of society's comforts or philosphies. This is survival and the will for life to continue at it's most raw but that is what we are dealing with, gentlemen. That is the power of nature, and we must learn to ride the wave or drown benath it. Those who drown under it are those who have failed to pass on their genes and already been weeded out. It is up to you whether or not you become one of them.
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