jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
The further I gather experience, the more I'd like to point out one thing: categorizing women is always a must.
That's why I think everyone would do better to have three buckets to put women in:
1) No please: This is where all the crazy girls you wouldn't even touch with another man's fingers go.
2) Sex only: This is where all the attractive ones go, who are generally narcissistic or sometimes part of cluster B. You don't want STR or worse, LTR, with them. Those kind of women are difficult to manage ecause they are extraordinary to touch your weakest point (sex, validation, your inner desire to provide and protect). You'll feel like an istinctive power around them, but you've to be rational.
3) LTR: This is where you put all the women with whom you can have honest and healthy communication. Those are the ones who play no games, and that will have a very different behaviour than 2. It's easy to be around them, not hard like 2, and you don't have to "think" about what she's doing.
It will be your istinct also to tell you that this woman it's not like group 1 or 2. When you'll met her, you'll know. She's not performative/covert.
The further I go, the more I realize that appearance matters less to me than a genuine person.
In fact, the girls in group 2 are the ones you'd like to force an LTR with, or who, after getting married because she was fantastic in bed, just to find yourself with a completely crazy woman. (If you had marriage or kids with them, it will be hard but a very good life lesson for you, it will make you become a better man).
But 1.. This is why there will be women who are just barely good-looking, who will be the only ones capable of making you a better man, and of evoking in you many qualities you don't yet know you possess.
Use this technique every time you deal with women.
See the big picture, and don't let your emotions numb you.
Always return to this inner dialogue.
(All women are equal, but at the same time, not all women are equally equal.)
That's why I think everyone would do better to have three buckets to put women in:
1) No please: This is where all the crazy girls you wouldn't even touch with another man's fingers go.
2) Sex only: This is where all the attractive ones go, who are generally narcissistic or sometimes part of cluster B. You don't want STR or worse, LTR, with them. Those kind of women are difficult to manage ecause they are extraordinary to touch your weakest point (sex, validation, your inner desire to provide and protect). You'll feel like an istinctive power around them, but you've to be rational.
3) LTR: This is where you put all the women with whom you can have honest and healthy communication. Those are the ones who play no games, and that will have a very different behaviour than 2. It's easy to be around them, not hard like 2, and you don't have to "think" about what she's doing.
It will be your istinct also to tell you that this woman it's not like group 1 or 2. When you'll met her, you'll know. She's not performative/covert.
The further I go, the more I realize that appearance matters less to me than a genuine person.
In fact, the girls in group 2 are the ones you'd like to force an LTR with, or who, after getting married because she was fantastic in bed, just to find yourself with a completely crazy woman. (If you had marriage or kids with them, it will be hard but a very good life lesson for you, it will make you become a better man).
But 1.. This is why there will be women who are just barely good-looking, who will be the only ones capable of making you a better man, and of evoking in you many qualities you don't yet know you possess.
Use this technique every time you deal with women.
See the big picture, and don't let your emotions numb you.
Always return to this inner dialogue.
(All women are equal, but at the same time, not all women are equally equal.)
