"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The things you do - each day

Things you do each day are out of

  • Fear

    Votes: 9 56.3%
  • Love

    Votes: 7 43.8%

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Mr. Wolf

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I wanted to post this in Anything Else, but I want some of the AFCs participate too..

The things you do, each day, whatever they might be.. What ever you do.. Your everyday life..

Take a day to think about this.​

Ask yourselfs, and answer honestly in this anonymous poll.

Are they out of fear, or love?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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CrunchyNut

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Neither. I do what I do out of wanting to be the best at what I do. It is a desire to win, not a fear of losing. (I suppose you could say a love of winning, but that would come across as ambiguous if I answered that in the poll!)
 

oakraiderz2

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I play playstation out of fear...
 

Potbelly

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i'm apathetic. so i flipped a coin and voted to skew the results.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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sandman6991

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I don't really get the question...I don't do anything out of fear...I do some things out of love...the majority of things I do for myself...

How does one do something out of fear? I can see NOT doing something out of fear...
 

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oakraiderz2 said:
I play playstation out of fear...
CrunchyNut said:
Neither. I do what I do out of wanting to be the best at what I do. It is a desire to win, not a fear of losing. (I suppose you could say a love of winning, but that would come across as ambiguous if I answered that in the poll!)
oakraiderz2 said:
I play playstation out of fear...
Potbelly said:
i'm apathetic. so i flipped a coin and voted to skew the results.
sandman6991 said:
I don't really get the question...I don't do anything out of fear...I do some things out of love...the majority of things I do for myself...

How does one do something out of fear? I can see NOT doing something out of fear...
krazyboy99 said:
this is the dumbest sh1t ever
Noob said:
i love out of fear


Did you guys posted these reapplies out of love or fear?


Was it love that motivated you, or was it the fear? Perhaps the fear of reality, the truth, the bottom line. Perhaps you had to reply immediately without giving this subject much though, out of fear, or love.

Take a whole day to think about the things you do. To truly discover yourselves.

These things you will do either out of love, or fear. Once you think about this well and get to the bottom of it all, there is no such thing as neither. Reduce your reasons to the bottom line truth. Fear? Love?
 

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Mr. Wolf said:
Did you guys posted these reapplies out of love or fear?


Was it love that motivated you, or was it the fear? Perhaps the fear of reality, the truth, the bottom line. Perhaps you had to reply immediately without giving this subject much though, out of fear, or love.

Take a whole day to think about the things you do. To truly discover yourselves.

These things you will do either out of love, or fear. Once you think about this well and get to the bottom of it all, there is no such thing as neither. Reduce your reasons to the bottom line truth. Fear? Love?
lol... huh? love, i guess... love to waste time in front of the computer replying to seemingly random stuff like this here
fear? fear what? fear that if i don't post youre gonna kick the door open and brutally rape me?????:D
i guess one of the points your trying to make is that doing things out of love instead of fear makes you truly confident and DJ? thats what i think anyway...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Donnie: Life isn't that simple. I mean who cares if Ling Ling returns the wallet and keeps the money? It has nothing to do with either fear or love.
Kitty Farmer: Fear and love are the deepest of human emotions.
Donnie: Okay. But you're not listening to me. There are other things that need to be taken into account here. Like the whole spectrum of human emotion. You can't just lump everything into these two categories and then just deny everything else!
 

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When you REACT to the world, you take ACTION from a place of FEAR.

When you RESPOND to the world, you take ACTION form a place of COURAGE, and LOVE.

When you lash out at someone for saying something negative to you, it comes from FEAR.

When you compliment someone for a job well done, or thank them for giving you kind words of enocuragement, you RESPOND from LOVE.

When you accept that someone has "offended" (how offended would you be by a child acting like a child? Or someone who is clearly not in the best mental state? Or is having a real diffciult time in their life? How quick would you be to jump on them and strangle them or something? If you knew their background and their circumstances? If you were truly confident, and secure??) you, but do not REACT, but acknowledge it was said and done, but you realize they HAVE NO POWER over YOU, in that they CANNOT 'hurt" you....
you can then learn how to RESPOND with LOVE. Its not easy, it takes time and patience, and understanding, and TRUE DEEP appreciation fory ou loved ones, and strangers.It takes TREMENDOUS Emotional STRENGTH to do so.





FEAR is a primal emotion evloved form our earliest ancestors Survival skills. FEAR exists when we DON'T KNOW How to 'DEAL" with it.

LOVE is an EVOLVED feeling that come from REALIZING and APPRECIATING the things, people, and places we hold dear to out hearts.

Here's the fvcked up thing though........
AS some of you may know, if you do not understand, and appreciate the meaning of RESPECT, and RESPECT yourself, in that YOU RECOGNIZE Respect, you cannot give it , nor appreciate it if someone GIVES YOU Respect.
If you do not understand LOVE, and LOVE YourSELF, in that YOU RECOGNIZE your LOVE, and understand , and APPRECIATE the LOVE other PEOPLE GIVE to YOU.....

YOU CANNOT GIVE IT BACK TO THEM OR YOURSELF.
 

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I wake up every morning happy to be alive, I look out my window, and see the sun shinning through the tress, hear the birds singing their morning songs. I make my self breakfast, an omelet stuffed with a sampling of all the different fruits and vegetables I found in the refrigerator, I love the taste. I jump into the shower and feel the warm water flowing caressingly over my body. I grab my guitar and even though it’s been years since I gave a serious performance, just the feel of the strings beneath my fingers feels good, the flow of beautiful sounds emerging from my head through my fingers and magically appearing out of the sound hole.

I settle down to work, pencil in hand. My client wants a picture of a fantasy bird with long flowing feathers. I’ve never really drawn birds before and I’ve been apprehensive that the result might not be up to my standards, but as I draw the emerging image surprises me, encourages me. Later on I go out to the store into town to pick up a few things. The people I pass, on the street, in the stores, some know me some don’t but everyone’s friendly, and the girls, they all flirt don’t they, old and young alike. And that girl in the Deli, the way she looks at me, the way she squirms as I approach, that smile makes me smile.

I run into a group of people that are always hanging out, they give me high fives, we catch up on the latest news, and we joke, with the women I flirt. They’re all glad I came by, my smile, my cheerfulness they tell me, lightens up everyone’s day. I make my way to my girlfriends place taking the path through the woods, speeding along on my bicycle, the wind in my face, dodging branches, seeing glimpses of the river ever now and then. I imagine myself, a gentleman knight, making his way on his horse through the forest on the way to his lover's castle. Faster and faster I go in anticipation of the wonderful girl I’m about to meet. I love my life.
 

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Interceptor is onto something good here.. Fear is a reaction. Love is a response.. Let's think about this..


Sarging...


You see an HB, and you don't know how to approach her and introduce yourself.. Fear.. That's what we all battling here. Fear.. You can't possibly claim that you are not approaching her out of love of yourself because you don't want to be rejected..

To truly love yourself, you must approach her, out of love of yourself, knowing that if you fail it's a good thing, because you've learned something new. Love..



Traffic lights.. Why not run them? Because most of us love our lifes and other people, we don't want to get killed nor kill anyone.. Love..


Studying hard at school. Most of us do that to get better. Love..



It is thus important to think about everything you do, and come understand why you doing things.. Little things.. For your average AFC could be why are you staying at home tonight.. Work on doing things out of love, not fear..

Or as Interceptor put it, THINK AND RESPOND, instead of REFLEXES.. Apply this to every little thing you do, from eye contact, to the bigger things in life..
 

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Mr. Wolf said:
Sarging...


You see an HB, and you don't know how to approach her and introduce yourself.. Fear.. That's what we all battling here. Fear.. You can't possibly claim that you are not approaching her out of love of yourself because you don't want to be rejected..

To truly love yourself, you must approach her, out of love of yourself, knowing that if you fail it's a good thing, because you've learned something new. Love..



Traffic lights.. Why not run them? Because most of us love our lifes and other people, we don't want to get killed nor kill anyone.. Love..


Studying hard at school. Most of us do that to get better. Love..



It is thus important to think about everything you do, and come understand why you doing things.. Little things.. For your average AFC could be why are you staying at home tonight.. Work on doing things out of love, not fear..

Or as Interceptor put it, THINK AND RESPOND, instead of REFLEXES.. Apply this to every little thing you do, from eye contact, to the bigger things in life..
You dont get it do you? There are more motivating factors other than fear and love. Its a fallacy of thinking that these are the only applicable feelings in regards to behavior. I dont study for love, i study so i can do well in my classes and graduate. Im not responding cause i love talking to you or because im afraid of anything.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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oakraiderz2 said:
You dont get it do you? There are more motivating factors other than fear and love. Its a fallacy of thinking that these are the only applicable feelings in regards to behavior. I dont study for love, i study so i can do well in my classes and graduate. Im not responding cause i love talking to you or because im afraid of anything.
The best response so far. Putting feelings into two distinct categories is not taking into account the myriad of emotions that people can feel from what they participate in, and some can be concurrent. example- Loving having sex without a condom, fearing that you will get an STD at the same time.

In my daily routine(have another month before I start working and have class only once a week), there are some things that fit into the love/fear dualism.

I used to smoke pot all the time...for fear of withdrawal symptoms and sleeplessness, and perhaps fear of the unknown. I also really liked getting high but there is a point where it is just something that numbs you through the day.

I play my djembe several times a week(like bongos but one drum). It is huge, and I absolutely love playing along to sublime, RHCP, or if I'm lucky enough to find someone who can improv. well on guitar.

I love riding my mountain bike, I love playing with my miniature pinscher.

I love going to the beach, talking to my friends on the phone, and some days I even love going to my grad classes.

I like to think I am much more motivated by love than fear or other negative emotions.
 
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