Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Interesting you said this because I was just thinking about it today. I see this as the difference between Intelligence and Smarts. An intelligent person can think but a smart person can direct their thoughts to a result.Originally posted by The_Shezzler
But the power that it takes to control the correct channel of thoughts to the desired result - takes a lot more than a flick of a switch.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
No Offense Visceral, but that is a tall order he would have to costum design an answer for each and everyone who wanted him to show how to implemente his info.Originally posted by Visceral
What you've written here is all true; I can feel it.
Unfortunately, it's not terribly helpful. It's a destination without a path, a set of conclusions that, in spite of how correct they may be, give no clue as to how they may be implemented.
Show us the steps we must take to overcome ourselves and become the man you describe.
My thoughts exactly, also.Originally posted by Ted,JustAdmitIt
The_Shezzler
You do bring a lot of energy to these forums and there's no doubt that people are motivated by your more straight to the point posts.....however.....I agree with mrRuckus on this one.
Any time I've read one of these 'Pookish' posts from you I'm left regretting the time I spent trying to make sense out of it.
And no,I'm not stupid![]()
It just meanders along with no real direction or content and at the end I'm left with a feeling of complete confusion as to WTF you're trying to say.....I THINK I can grasp what you're getting at but it's been said many times before and in far more eloquent ways.
Not trying to bash you mate,it's just these types of posts are totally incongruent with the rest of your contributions to this place.....'TryHard' springs to mind![]()
I also think it's strange how G-Man UK is always the first to reply to these posts and profess his admiration of your 'wisdom'![]()
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.