"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The Tart Of War
- Thread starter G-Man UK
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Create Reality
Master Don Juan
Interesting you said this because I was just thinking about it today. I see this as the difference between Intelligence and Smarts. An intelligent person can think but a smart person can direct their thoughts to a result.
It goes to DJing when out on a date. You've learned all these techniques, but you have to put them into action, and at the right times also. Being able to direct your technique while out in the field is a masterful skill indeed.
I get the point but some of the sentences make no sense and the presentation is horrendous.
I mean.. WTF?
"To fight for something, you have to beleive in something, to beleive in something you have to Love something - other wise you are fighting for attention - and heading for resentment."
Yeah... .. just.. yeah.
"Control is a belief, a knowingness that one can go into battle and WIN, but win without striving, for a win with pure striving is not worthy of being called a win - striving to win is the way of the AFC, an unskilled warrior - a skilled warrior can win the battle before it has even begun - through Control."
WHAT? WHAT!
Even if I could come close to a sentence diagram of that bad boy despite not speaking the King's English, it's still just a bunch of ideas thrown together in some nonsensical random order in some vain hope that it will inspire the troops in the event it flies under their "he thinks we're retarded" radar. You could simple say "be in control of yourselves, jerks" and have a lot more impact, though I can only guess that's what you meant since no where in any dictionary i know of is control defined as some sort of belief.
TedJustAdmitIt
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You do bring a lot of energy to these forums and there's no doubt that people are motivated by your more straight to the point posts.....however.....I agree with mrRuckus on this one.
Any time I've read one of these 'Pookish' posts from you I'm left regretting the time I spent trying to make sense out of it.
And no,I'm not stupid
It just meanders along with no real direction or content and at the end I'm left with a feeling of complete confusion as to WTF you're trying to say.....I THINK I can grasp what you're getting at but it's been said many times before and in far more eloquent ways.
Not trying to bash you mate,it's just these types of posts are totally incongruent with the rest of your contributions to this place.....'TryHard' springs to mind
I also think it's strange how G-Man UK is always the first to reply to these posts and profess his admiration of your 'wisdom'
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Unfortunately, it's not terribly helpful. It's a destination without a path, a set of conclusions that, in spite of how correct they may be, give no clue as to how they may be implemented.
Show us the steps we must take to overcome ourselves and become the man you describe.
zerocelcius
Master Don Juan
No Offense Visceral, but that is a tall order he would have to costum design an answer for each and everyone who wanted him to show how to implemente his info.
I agree he could use some personal experiences to show for example, but for it to work each and every person would have to do some thinking and apply this to their own lifes.
However; sombody in bootcamp could apply these and post or even the shezzler himself could.
Mojo604
Senior Don Juan
My thoughts exactly, also.Originally posted by Ted,JustAdmitIt
The_Shezzler
You do bring a lot of energy to these forums and there's no doubt that people are motivated by your more straight to the point posts.....however.....I agree with mrRuckus on this one.
Any time I've read one of these 'Pookish' posts from you I'm left regretting the time I spent trying to make sense out of it.
And no,I'm not stupid
It just meanders along with no real direction or content and at the end I'm left with a feeling of complete confusion as to WTF you're trying to say.....I THINK I can grasp what you're getting at but it's been said many times before and in far more eloquent ways.
Not trying to bash you mate,it's just these types of posts are totally incongruent with the rest of your contributions to this place.....'TryHard' springs to mind
I also think it's strange how G-Man UK is always the first to reply to these posts and profess his admiration of your 'wisdom'
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The-Sultan
Don Juan
I espically think its important for a man to be confident like you said. Without confidence you cant do anything. It has been said over and over, but girls really do like confident people.
Theres a guy at school, so confident does anything even if hes acting like a idiot, he will do whatever he feels like. And hes the biggest "don juan - pick up artist" in our school. So many girls after him. But in a few weeks ill take his place, i wing with him at the momment