The "taking it slow" speech

[Diogo]

Hi everyone, I'm using the thread to get a better understanding of what is happening to me on this specific situation which I'm not in control.

So First, just to let you know that I'm not the kind of one night stand, I don't enjoy it, altought there was a time in my life where Tinder gave me the oportunity to discover that.

So I met this girl in september, we went on the first date kiss, I'm pretty sure I could have ****ed her on the first date but at the time the logistic didn´t help me.

So after that we went on 4 or 5 dates and things went really bad for me, since I was a lot more excited than her. She flicked me a ton of times, and only a couple of days ago we ****ed.

She says that wants to take things slower based on the previous experiences and because basically she is on a ****ing spree including with her ex-boyfriend.

I dont want to be another number, I relly want her but I know im not in control of the situation.

I'm very pragmatic so either there is any solution or I will simply cut any contact.

 

[derby1]

walk away with the self respect that she thinks you havent got at the moment , ......that means you dont initiate any contact with her..

she knows you think her pussies made of solid gold

shell be back

 

[Billtx49]

The taking it slow means she’s probably going in a different direction currently than you are. Go NC on her.

 

[Diogo]

walk away with the self respect that she thinks you havent got at the moment , ......that means you dont initiate any contact with her..

she knows you think her pussies made of solid gold

shell be back

But she initiates contact all the time

"I want to see you"

"where are you"

I'm pretty sure she wants to make me just another **** toy, which i dont want

 

[sazc]

Look to date other girls and turn her into a plate.

 

[Diogo]

Take control of YOUR situation.

That is a very vague observation.

I'm pretty satisfied with my life I pretty much can do wathever I want, I simply not in control of this specific situation, which by the way let me very uncofortable since I like to have control of everything in my life.

This girl in terms of looks isnt the most beautifull girl that I have been with, to be honest I would put her on a 7 or maybe 8 with make up and good dress, but she is a player and made a solid mind game on me

 

[sazc]

Are you sure you're not attracted to her because you really can't have her?

 

[Diogo]

Are you sure you're not attracted to her because you really can't have her?

I think that is pretty obvious lol. I like to pursue what I dont have... When I had a Fiat I wanted a BMW, when I bought a BMW I started to look for a Porsche and I'm sure that when I gotten the Porsche I will look to a Ferrari, I just apply that logic to everything in my life

 

[derby1]

if she actually uses the words "she wants to see you" and she backs up her words

SHE COMES TO YOUR PLACE

Diogo "tbh its been a busy week im worn out, come over mine well have drink"

"if not give me a call in 2-3 weeks time and maybe we can sort something then"

AKA DIOGO AINT GOING FCKING NOWHERE

give her two "noted" opportunities to fck about... all women fck about with mild interest...............anymore than 2 false starts you block for your own mental well being

your at your house anyway, if she dont turn up dont even mention it it dont matter

also dont tell her your free like the night after the contact she'll think you been sitting around sucking ya thumb

 

[Diogo]

"on a massive f***ing spree" = not GF material

Well that's the point... is there any way to change that scenario or I need to just assume tht as it is.

 

[El Payaso]

Look to date other girls and turn her into a plate.

This. She's only interested in sex as she clearly stated. Besides, why would you want to wife a hoe. She clearly stated she's on a fvcking spree including with her ex boyfriend.

If you're not looking for casual sex then just move on. Stop saying things are out of your control when it clearly ISN'T.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

I think that is pretty obvious lol. I like to pursue what I dont have... When I had a Fiat I wanted a BMW, when I bought a BMW I started to look for a Porsche and I'm sure that when I gotten the Porsche I will look to a Ferrari, I just apply that logic to everything in my life

How can you make enough to buy a BMW yet let some little slut bag boss you around?

 

[Bayne05]

You can't tell a women to stop fvckin around. If she's on a fvck spree that's exactly what she'll do until she's had her fill of d!ck. Don't be the chump who decides to wife a used up ho.

 

[Bob S]

You mention that you are not in control of the situation. You are but just do not realise it. It's the denial element again because your judgement is clouded by your feelings (I know, been there myself). Your choices are to plate her and bang her and just see where things go - bare in mind - she is banging several guys which is fine as long as she has never behaved like this in a relationship. It is common for girls in relationships that are sour to tell other men that they are not in a relationship or that its not serious so as to not limit her potential outside that relationship. The man in that relationship still believes his in a relationship so you banging her may be that you are mowing another mans lawn without knowing. Obviously this may not be the case but it's something to bare in mind with her. If you find out she's in a relationship and told you a lie that it is over, she has the ability in herself to cheat and you wouldn't want to be with any woman that has this potential. Good luck. Remember she enters your frame. You don't enter hers.

 

[wbeatty]

Always focus on abundance over just one girl. Whenever you have a favourite always make sure you have back ups.