You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"Unplugging" was never the problem for me -- dealing with what I saw going on around me has been the problem.Francisco d'Anconia said:I've always said that the term "Starter Marriage" was coined by some poor slobs (or slob-ettes) who married with the common delusions of what getting married would "automatically" give them without little effort on their part. Of course their expectations weren't realized and rather than saying they failed, they say that it was just a starter marriage or a practice run.