The space issue

[realdeal]

The space issue?!? Advise please?

How do I turn the tables on a chick that told me she needed time off?

She called me twice tonight because she wanted a DVD of hers back. Was she just calling to here my voice? Does she miss me? If I ignore her competely will it make her come back sooner?

 

[OpenMind]

I hate to say this but when a chick wants space it is usually the beginning of the end.. but you can try this.... back off 100%. .. this means dont return calls and dont see her for as long as it takes until she really starts to go crazy.. make her miss u ..... when u do finally talk to her (must be on the phone, not in person), if she asks you why you have been ignoring her just remind her that she asked for space and you are giving it to her... then if she begs to see you let her see you but make her wait a couple more days.. this will put her on the chase and hopefully get her interest level back up but you must remain a challenge.. not being enough of a challenge is what got her to ask for space because you lowered her interest level... this takes some self discipline to pull off but it might get her back.. just my 2 cents! good luck!

 

[sql]

well, if she said she needed time off from you, give it to her - effectively you should exersize your unalienable right to next her. "time off" is all too often an euphemism for dumping you.

if you want to turn the tables, totally cut her off from all forms of contact. let the machine pick up. dont answer the phone if its her. even if its private. you showing you have dignity, and flexing your backbone will show her you are not desparate for her, that you can get on by without her, and that you have nothing to loose than your own time already invested. this is your trump card. if she asked for time off, it probably because she felt smothered by you or she simply doesnt have any interest in you, or some other conflcting reason you shouldnt be wasting your time analyzing. either way, you are better off seeking comfort in the arms of another woman.

just 2 cents

 

[realdeal]

She works out at the same gym as me. If I see her there, do I totally ignore her. I know that she will come up to me and start some BS smalltalk. Telling her to back off because I am giving her space will work right?

 

[DJ_Dork]

when a girl starts asking for "space" you ask yourself.. to look for another girl.

 

[OpenMind]

When you go to your gym do your workout, if she comes to talk to you chat breifly then "give her the space she wants", get back to your workout then split... if she doesnt approach you then ignore her as if she wasnt there, do what you have to in the gym and get out of there and dont let it get to you! good luck!

 

[OpenMind]

Another idea, go to a different gym! this will make things much easier on you for at least the next month or so..

 

[penkitten]

" i need some space" or " maybe we should slow down" = your super sexy but you irritate the crap outta me.

 

[Cremasta]

Give her the space she wants. Tell her the DVD is in your mailbox and she should come and get it.

If you meet her in the gym, be polite - being an a$$ will just give her an excuse to slander your name to her family/friends/etc. But don't give her much of your time. Say hello, then excuse yourself to go workout.

Forget turning tables, when a girl asks for space, the only correct thing you can do is give it to her... in spades!

 

[Zossima]

Originally posted by realdeal
She works out at the same gym as me. If I see her there, do I totally ignore her. I know that she will come up to me and start some BS smalltalk. Telling her to back off because I am giving her space will work right?

Just smile and say "hi" and proceed to work out without giving her a second thought. If she proceeds to talk to you just be polite and non-commital. Being aloof and care-free will torture her more than anything.

 

[NatureGuy]

OpenMind has got some good advice here.
Keep in mind though that this may
be just her way of indicating she wants
to go more slowly (rather than a complete end).
Either way, some variation of the
OpenMind approach should work.