"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The skydiving opener

Dannyrt34

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I was at the bar Saturday night. Was hanging out on a stool talking with my buddy when the girl that walks around with jello shots came and sat down next to us to take a break.

I looked at her and we caught eye contact for a second, and she's only an arm length away so I asked her out of the blue "Would you ever go skydiving?"

She kinda laughed at my randomness and said "I think skydriving would actually be pretty amazing."

I said "Well my boss made reservations to go skydriving (Which is true) and he asked me to go. I'm having some mixed feelings about it."

We kept the conversation going for a good 5 minutes about skydiving, when she had to get back up and walk around with the shots. I kept noticing IOI's from her while she was doing this. She kept looking over at me and smiling even while she was serving other people.

About 10 minutes later, she comes back over and sits down.

Her: Wow my feet hurt.
Me: Well, I'm no expert but I think it could be them heals you're wearing haha.
Her: Yea, I'd have to agree with you there.
Me: Why not wear flipflops and a T-Shirt to work?
Her: I like to look nice in case I meet any guys. (She kind of said this directing it towards me, I took it as a major IOI)
Me: I dunno, I think a girl can look pretty hot in casual clothes. (I directed this towards her with a little elbow nudge)
Her: Oh don't get me wrong, if you would see me outside of work I'm a sweat pants queen! I never dress up!
Me: Whoa what makes you think that we're going to hangout outside of your work.
Her: (laughs) Well I was just sayin.
Me: Is it because I'm going skydiving and you think I might die a very quick death?
Her: (Laughs pretty hard at that) Well it could be considered a slow death if you factor in the amount of time you're falling.
Me: Oh hardy har har, you're a funny one!

I then told her I had to go. And here's where the twist comes, I left without asking for the number. Although she was unbelievably hot, I'm already seeing somebody, but a guy still gotta practice;)

Just thought I'd share that cause I really liked the skydiving opener. Hope somebody can get some ideas from this and THANKS FOR READING!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Her "slow death" comment was clever, she seems smart (albeit she works at a bar lol). I'd give her some points for that. You should've gotten her number.
 

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MisterMcGee said:
Her "slow death" comment was clever, she seems smart (albeit she works at a bar lol). I'd give her some points for that. You should've gotten her number.
Yea now that I'm thinkin about it I should have.. Dam.
Lol, thanks for pointing that out, ass, now I'm kicking myself. Would have been so easy.

Coulda just been like.. "Well hey since I'm not going to live much longer, I better get your number so we can hang out immediately. Quickly, we don't have much time!"

Yea I'm pretty much an idiot.
 

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Dannyrt34 said:
Yea I'm pretty much an idiot.
Why,because you remained faithful to the girl you're currently seeing?

You proved your point. You showed yourself and us here at the forum that you still "got it". Your time here on the forum isn't in vain. You should have confidence in yourself knowing that if things were to come to an end with you and your girl,you have the skills necessary to go out there and meet another girl.

By getting her number,you'd either have felt guilty around your girlfriend,or gotten her number and never called her,which would have caused her pain/to become weiry of even good guys.

Why hurt her just so you can get some "practice"?

This way you left things,she feels good by having a fun conversation with you,and you continued to sharpen your skills.

Nobody's hurt and everyone's happy. :)
 

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Well he didn't say it was her girlfriend, just a girl he's seeing so I didnt assume they were exclusive.
But either way, it's not in vain. You can attract and chat up a girl. You could've closed her, dated her, and so forth.
You still "got it". Take that confidence boost for what it is. :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No, you did the right thing. She gets asked for her number every night. She placates those guys because they are customers and she is pressured to not be a b!tch to them, but she will remember you fondly and perhaps get tingly for you.

I've had a couple jello shot girls in my day
 

Dannyrt34

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Igetit! said:
Why,because you remained faithful to the girl you're currently seeing?

You proved your point. You showed yourself and us here at the forum that you still "got it". Your time here on the forum isn't in vain. You should have confidence in yourself knowing that if things were to come to an end with you and your girl,you have the skills necessary to go out there and meet another girl.

By getting her number,you'd either have felt guilty around your girlfriend,or gotten her number and never called her,which would have caused her pain/to become weiry of even good guys.

Why hurt her just so you can get some "practice"?

This way you left things,she feels good by having a fun conversation with you,and you continued to sharpen your skills.

Nobody's hurt and everyone's happy. :)
I always liked your posts bud.. You put into words what I'm usually thinking in my head. I've been visiting the forum for almost 4 years, and a member for 3 of them. I seen alot of great posters come and go. The forums aren't what they used to be, but I think their coming around again. I used to see field reports ALL THE TIME, and when people read them, they never criticized every little detail.

Back then everyone used POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT to help other people. Which you seem to do. Good post and once again your right about that. I think not going for the number was the best thing for me, although tempting.

Me and my current girl both seem to have a happy, healthy relationship going for us. And as we all know by now, that's a rare thing.

+rep
 

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Is crazy **** like this that sets us apart from the crowd.

My example of this is 'learning to breakdance'. You can run so much game both setting up the conversation around this, and then when you actually get round to showing her a few moves!
 
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