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[Joeybphs]

Alright, so this year's been alright for me, made a few mistakes almost gotten in a few fights with some football douche that got pissed at me for "talkin to his girl" (hey, if she wants to talk to me, that's her choice, not yours buddy.)

Few girls interested but I have standards and they were not met, so I passed.

Anyway there's this chick I met at the beginning of the year, if we're goin by that whole hb scale you guys do I'd put her about a 9. Varsity soccer, she's got a very nice body. She's the best friend of a chick I grew up with (that's how we met) and the same day she was like "Taylor, why didn't you ever introduce me to this guy? he's funny." and we get along pretty well, she's cool, you know? Every guy in the class is crazy about her, and at first this year I thought she was interested but I didn't want to make a move (for some reason I wanted to wait until I got my braces off, weird.) and now I'm afraid it may have been too late. We haven't chilled out side school and I'm thinkin after I get my license I should go after her again. We've had plans before, we were going to go out to eat but some stuff came up and it didn't happen.

I really dig this girl, you know? And sometimes it seems she's into me, but now I'm pretty sure she's into some other guy. I walk her to her next class [its on the way] after a few periods, she yells hello at me in the hallway, all that.

Anyway, I just don't want to make any mistakes. I don't compliment her often, Trying to treat everyone the same in class and not make it too obvious I'm into her, but I've been spending some time rereading that bible and I'm a little fuzzy on where to go from here.



Btw people, what's the best way to blow off a guy [not sexual] that's bothering the **** out of you for 'treating his friends poorly' (I didn't, just some drama girl told him I spat in her face and smacked her around, which I would never do.)?

thanks guys, rock on.

 

[eaglez1177]

Well first off, do not get your mind set on that other guy. Hes nothing to you. As long as this chick is single, you have just as much of a shot at getting her as any other guy.

Secondly, Id like to add that if she yells "hello" to you in the hallways and stuff like that, that seems like a definite IOI (indicator of interest).

Dont get down on yourself, and dont convince yourself that you're too late and have blown your chances. You still have a shot.

That being said, the only other advice I can give you is to just throw all the game you've got at this chick, and see how it goes. DO NOT hesitate to do anything that comes to your mind. Your goal should be to hang out with her, just you and her, and make sure you achieve that goal as soon as possible. The more time you waste, the more you put things off, or the more you b*tch out, the less and less of a shot you have at getting her.

Good luck

EDIT: unless that guy is one of your friends, just tell him to leave you the fvck alone, and that you dont have the time to listen to some bullsh*t drama about a ridiculous rumor. Tell him that he needs to stop acting all dramatic like a girl, and that he should stop taking everythin ppl say as the truth. If its really pissin you off, also add in there that you dont give a sh*t about his fvckin friends, and you'll treat them any way YOU want. If hes one of your friends, ask him whats more important: your friendship, or some bullsh*t drama a girl made up?

 

[Joeybphs]

Well first off, do not get your mind set on that other guy. Hes nothing to you. As long as this chick is single, you have just as much of a shot at getting her as any other guy.

Secondly, Id like to add that if she yells "hello" to you in the hallways and stuff like that, that seems like a definite IOI (indicator of interest).

Dont get down on yourself, and dont convince yourself that you're too late and have blown your chances. You still have a shot.

That being said, the only other advice I can give you is to just throw all the game you've got at this chick, and see how it goes. DO NOT hesitate to do anything that comes to your mind. Your goal should be to hang out with her, just you and her, and make sure you achieve that goal as soon as possible. The more time you waste, the more you put things off, or the more you b*tch out, the less and less of a shot you have at getting her.

Good luck

EDIT: unless that guy is one of your friends, just tell him to leave you the fvck alone, and that you dont have the time to listen to some bullsh*t drama about a ridiculous rumor. Tell him that he needs to stop acting all dramatic like a girl, and that he should stop taking everythin ppl say as the truth. If its really pissin you off, also add in there that you dont give a sh*t about his fvckin friends, and you'll treat them any way YOU want. If hes one of your friends, ask him whats more important: your friendship, or some bullsh*t drama a girl made up?

Your edit is pure genius sense that has pounded into my brain and saved to a word document for future references anytime I get into a situation like that.

As for the other things, thanks man =)

Just got another question; whats the proper way to handle jealousy? Sometimes I get that burning desire just to break things when I see **** that makes me jealous, you know? but I'm not that kind of person, how do I keep that from happening besides just swallowing it like a ***** and letting it ruin my day?

 

[eaglez1177]

Your edit is pure genius sense that has pounded into my brain and saved to a word document for future references anytime I get into a situation like that.

As for the other things, thanks man =)

Just got another question; whats the proper way to handle jealousy? Sometimes I get that burning desire just to break things when I see **** that makes me jealous, you know? but I'm not that kind of person, how do I keep that from happening besides just swallowing it like a ***** and letting it ruin my day?

If you could tell me exactly what is making you jealous that wud help. Are you jealous when you see a guy hug a girl you like? Are you jealous when one of your friends is havin a great and fun convo with someone popular?

The reason why you're jealous is because you want to be the guy that the girl is hugging and the guy that the girl is kissing, but unfortunately, your not that guy. Instead of pouting like a little kid and letting it ruin your entire day (which btw is completely ridiculous; jealous should not be a decider of how your day goes), you should ACT upon your jealousy. By that I mean go up to and and start a conversation with that chick. Just because shes talkin to some other guy, hugging some other guy, or kissin some other guy, doesnt mean you cant do anything and that the only thing your stuck with is jealousy.

So next time you get that jealousy, or a desire to "break things up" (which as you know is totally wrong to do), simply say to yourself "Im jealous? HA! That guy shes talkin to is gonna be the one jealous in a couple of seconds!" and approach that girl and work your game on her.

 

[Joeybphs]

If you could tell me exactly what is making you jealous that wud help. Are you jealous when you see a guy hug a girl you like? Are you jealous when one of your friends is havin a great and fun convo with someone popular?

The reason why you're jealous is because you want to be the guy that the girl is hugging and the guy that the girl is kissing, but unfortunately, your not that guy. Instead of pouting like a little kid and letting it ruin your entire day (which btw is completely ridiculous; jealous should not be a decider of how your day goes), you should ACT upon your jealousy. By that I mean go up to and and start a conversation with that chick. Just because shes talkin to some other guy, hugging some other guy, or kissin some other guy, doesnt mean you cant do anything and that the only thing your stuck with is jealousy.

So next time you get that jealousy, or a desire to "break things up" (which as you know is totally wrong to do), simply say to yourself "Im jealous? HA! That guy shes talkin to is gonna be the one jealous in a couple of seconds!" and approach that girl and work your game on her.

hah thanks eagles, you're pro. I used to always think, if the situation didn't allow me to talk to her right then, "yeah, she's just talkin to him tryin to get me jealous." and I'd feel better

btw, when I said she yelled hello at me, I meant like.. in general, a salutation. Not 'hello joey!' cause that'd be kinda weird. It's more like a 'hey! Joey! *bigsmile*"

 

[eaglez1177]

Np man...good luck