try dating section at askmen.comgimmeyofonenumba said:I see alota people quote doc love. Where can i read his articles?
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i dont think its always the same case with ever woman. i think the ones that do that have issues. i refuse to play silly games in relationships... i would seriously rather be single than play games. i mean obviously don't overcrowd a girl with lovey dovey stuff but it really isn't a bad thing to show your love. if that sends them running, then i'd be happier without them.sinnerman said:so very true..my last serious gf was so caring and and her interest level was in the stratosphere. she was ready to sacrifice her dreams and future plans to stay with me, lie to her parents to go out with me, tolerate every demand i made just to make sure i was happy.. she was also afraid to lose me all the while i was not that interested. however, her love and care and attention made me feel guilty about not reciprocating and baaam i became more and more caring while her interest level decreased. at the time i used to be a super afc believing that only if she knew how much i cared then she'd become like befpre and i put her on the pedestal made her the center of my universe and the result being her saying that she doesn't feel like before and it ended there. we did manage to continue for another 8 months on and off mostly coz i changed my behaviour but it was never like before..so yea thats the single worst thing about dating
its not like the change came over night. at first she really enjoyed the love and care i gave her back. however, there was a gut feeling that power was shifting. i started behaving like we're made for each other, soul mates and all that. and it wasn't like i was pretending. at first i just wanted to screw her while she had lots of future plans about us. after a while i felt guilty about how could i view such an innocent sweet girl as a piece of flesh and then i started doing all the wrong things. acting jealous and insecure, complimenting her all the time, telling her how much i missed her and so on. eventually it led to her telling me that she is not as ''fascinated'' by me as she was when we started going out.LoneWolf said:i dont think its always the same case with ever woman. i think the ones that do that have issues. i refuse to play silly games in relationships... i would seriously rather be single than play games. i mean obviously don't overcrowd a girl with lovey dovey stuff but it really isn't a bad thing to show your love. if that sends them running, then i'd be happier without them.
Yes I know the feeling all too well. It's especially hard to know that they simply transferred those feelings they had for you to someone else (or several others).sinnerman said:i realize that the days i miss the most(i still do) was the first month
sinnerman said:its not like the change came over night. at first she really enjoyed the love and care i gave her back. however, there was a gut feeling that power was shifting. i started behaving like we're made for each other, soul mates and all that. and it wasn't like i was pretending. at first i just wanted to screw her while she had lots of future plans about us. after a while i felt guilty about how could i view such an innocent sweet girl as a piece of flesh and then i started doing all the wrong things. acting jealous and insecure, complimenting her all the time, telling her how much i missed her and so on. eventually it led to her telling me that she is not as ''fascinated'' by me as she was when we started going out.
when i analyze the situation now i realize that the days i miss the most(i still do) was the first month when all i wanted was to sleep with her. i did all the alpha stuff then without even realising. i projected higher value. i was the prize. it doesn't mean i didn't do any romantic stuff or wasn't chivalrous in that first month, however, it was half of as much she did.
once things went south i started missing all the nice things she used to say and do for me. winning her back became the sole motive of my existence and i thought if she would just realize how much she means to me and that i'm not a jerk she'd come back. that was a fatal error. when a gal acts clingy or insecure about herself or makes you the center of your world you feel like a king. i had felt that way and i wanted her to feel that way so i put her on the pedestal. BIG MISTAKE. Sadly, back then I didn't understand the concept of female attraction. I had this very romanticized & idealized view about her and our relationship and how she's not ''like other slvts out there who require gaming''
yea that's the worst feeling. it hasn't happened with this last gf yet but i can still remember how i felt when this one gal started dating one of my friends after breaking up in high school. I reconciled with her after 5 years. That was the longest No Contact Ive done.bigneil said:Yes I know the feeling all too well. It's especially hard to know that they simply transferred those feelings they had for you to someone else (or several others).
I can so much relate to what you just said. When I started talking with this last gal whenever she mentioned about any other guy friend I'd get a bit jealous but then instantly would ask my self "So what, are you gonna marry this chic'' and that was that.bigneil said:Funny how when you first meet a girl you don't feel the least bit jealous of other men in their life. Slowly but surely you start to care about them until one day their opinion of you affects your self esteem.
The worst part is how, once you fall for them and lose them, even hotter girls who like you more don't cure you right away. But it goes both ways. Often you are really better than their previous boyfriend but, because you like them and the other guy dumped them, they still like the other one more.
Great points sinnerman. We need to realize that jealousy is weakness. We have to be confident enough to know that there is nobody better than us. Some girls try to make you jealous and wear you down over time though.sinnerman said:After a certain point looks of the girl you love become secondary... Even her behavior and personality may have changed yet you still associate that feeling you had when things were going great. That is what the other hotter girls can't provide. Logically speaking I know there is no future with her and being attached with her is counter productive. However, like a cigarette addict you still feel the need to get a taste of that poison even if it harms you.
You can go overboard, I did just like sinner. Same exact situation, her interest was sky high and I blew it by putting her on a pedalstool.LoneWolf said:i dont think its always the same case with ever woman. i think the ones that do that have issues. i refuse to play silly games in relationships... i would seriously rather be single than play games. i mean obviously don't overcrowd a girl with lovey dovey stuff but it really isn't a bad thing to show your love. if that sends them running, then i'd be happier without them.