You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I nevr bought her flowers. She started hounding me for flowers on our 4th date and I laughed it off. I never bought her a thing.SeanJuan said:Why are you even bothering with this chick man?
She was jerking your chain 3 months ago and guess what? She just discovered that she can waltz into your life 3 months later and pick up right where she left off.....a nice ego boost for her I'm sure. Not to mention the fact that she thinks you're enough of a chump to buy her flowers on top of it all.
Self respect and dignity are worth more than a piece of ass man. Turn your back.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Isn't it obvious why? To get laid. But I still haven't replied.SeanJuan said:Either way..... 3 months has passed....why would you get spun up in her web again?
I can't believe your 28. I don't know how I missed this before. This absolutely amazes me.My Name is Nobody said:I think I'm going to reply and try to get her to send me some pics of her tits. If I can get her to send them, I'll post them in this thread for all to see.
What do you think?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
MacAvoy said:I can't believe your 28. I don't know how I missed this before. This absolutely amazes me.
Now you know, NEVER tell a woman "i don't want you to go away". Not only does it inherently put her on a pedestal and make you look like an insecure loser, it gives her all the power possible in the arrangement. She knows that if she does go away, you'll remain a whipped little b*tch wrapped around her finger. This is simple, basic, fundamental DJ stuff man. Seriously. You are deep in the matrix right now. Eject while you still can!My Name is ... said:Alright I can handle that. I admit I am still getting used to NOT being a complete loser who gets no ass.
I just finished emailing Francisco explaining how this girl is the ULTIMATE b!tch.
The last time we got together we were talking, and I expressed feelings and told her "i don't want you to go away"
She consoled me and told me "it's ok, I won't go away"
then she DISSAPEARED for 3 months. Didn't return my calls or or texts. How big of a b!tch is she?
Thanks for the advice Telos I'll keep it in mind.
Let it go dude.My Name is Nobody said:The funny thing is I dumped this girl and didn't care about her but I let her come back a few weeks later and THEN I started feeling something for her. And then she was nice and sweet in my face but now we see what she was really up to.
Don't worry I won't be contacting her again. And when she contacts me I will ignore her ass so she knows how it feels.
dannyegg4575 said:Let it go dude.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Telos said:Now you know, NEVER tell a woman "i don't want you to go away". Not only does it inherently put her on a pedestal and make you look like an insecure loser, it gives her all the power possible in the arrangement. She knows that if she does go away, you'll remain a whipped little b*tch wrapped around her finger. This is simple, basic, fundamental DJ stuff man. Seriously. You are deep in the matrix right now. Eject while you still can!
dannyegg4575 said:she contacted you again, I quoted it because it's what you said before remember?
How about the other one from work? There is no escape. We work a few feet away from each other, just different cubicles. I changed my hours but I still think about her all he time.dannyegg4575 said:You don't need a shrink.
You're going through a vicious cycle. Unless you stay away from her and just live your life, you're going to continue doing stupid stuff.
Look at how much time you've wasted on this chick that you don't even care about. is it worth it?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
My Name is ... said:Yeah, my bad man. I dumped her originally just because my head was a complete wreck from the new years eve disaster. Then I realized it was a mistake and tried to reverse it.
I am a total mess right now, I may need a shrink.