"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Secret Weapon that alot of you "Don Juans" are missing

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Skip to_my lou said:
I agree charm is key. I find Prince to be very charming in photographs, obviously a key in him banging hot chicks and looking hot.
prince was born to take the stage, he has always had intense charismatic appeal to him. all the girls & women had to see all his shows and buy all his stuff.
if you don't believe me, grab a purple rain video and show it to your sister. if you try to talk through any part of it, she will scream at you to shut your pie hole and throw her shoe at you. nobody's allowed to speak during purple rain.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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penkitten said:
prince was born to take the stage, he has always had intense charismatic appeal to him. all the girls & women had to see all his shows and buy all his stuff.
if you don't believe me, grab a purple rain video and show it to your sister. if you try to talk through any part of it, she will scream at you to shut your pie hole and throw her shoe at you. nobody's allowed to speak during purple rain.
thats a troll
 

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Nothing wrong with being "charming" with your girl. It can help you keep a girl around longer too. But, just don't over use the charm.
 

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no, i called skip_to_my_lou who just joined an hour ago to make the original skip2mylou781 sound bad a troll
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AFC Savior said:
no, i called skip_to_my_lou who just joined an hour ago to make the original skip2mylou781 sound bad a troll
ok then:) carry on
 

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joeybear140 said:
Saying that you need to be charming is good but what does charming mean? I think we can break this word down more.
:rolleyes:

Señor Fingers said:
Not a bad post, but I dislike the analogy of seduction techniques with weapons.

Can you taste the irony?

It's one of my biggest regrets.. naming my most famous writings with that ominous title.. I thought it was clever, but didnt realize the implications it carried with it.

IMHO, natural seducers dont have an arsenal of weaponry. If I were pressed for a better metaphor I would say they have dance maneuvers and charm is the rhythm by which they step.

Charm cannot be forced.. it occurs naturally when you are in tune with the interaction.. the music you make together. You are totally improvising, but from the outside it looks as if you rehearsed it all because you are so on point.

Rather than bombard her with what you think will charm her, you let yourself fall into a rhythm and before you know it, the both of you are gliding along, sharing moments and your feelings / desires are in harmony.

At certain points you will almost have a telepathy going and complete each others thoughts. This is not to say you cant disagree or create tension - a true master can be both difficult and charming at the same time, but I digress..

It's all about knowing the music, when to dip, when to spin, when to lead and push and when to fall back. It has nothing to do with logical thought.. you are just flowing.. the feeling is total freedom and people are really drawn to that.

Some folks have it naturally, others practice endlessly to get it down. But once you get your tango on, you will be able to handle women (and people in general) with ease
 

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AFC Savior, your a wierd one. Some of your posts I absolutely hate like your emotional abuse post and your mobster post, but I absolutely love this post and couldn't agree with you more on this point.

At least, we got some common ground.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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comic_relief said:
AFC Savior, your a wierd one. Some of your posts I absolutely hate like your emotional abuse post and your mobster post, but I absolutely love this post and couldn't agree with you more on this point.

At least, we got some common ground.

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im always honest, im not gonna sugarcoat anything, i say it how it is, so thats how its gonna be
 

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so be charming...like your myspace boyfriend you posted about in the other thread? It is now impossible for me and probably many others to ever take you seriously, after creating a post solely to swing from your italian lover's nutsack. get the f uck out of here.
 

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The Inside Man said:
so be charming...like your myspace boyfriend you posted about in the other thread? It is now impossible for me and probably many others to ever take you seriously, after creating a post solely to swing from your italian lover's nutsack. get the f uck out of here.
Why bring up other sh!t. That has nothing to do with this thread. Don't bring a disagreement from one thread into another, that is lame.

This is a good thread, there is hope for "afc savior" yet.
 

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The Inside Man said:
so be charming...like your myspace boyfriend you posted about in the other thread? It is now impossible for me and probably many others to ever take you seriously, after creating a post solely to swing from your italian lover's nutsack. get the f uck out of here.

idiot, look at the whole point of that other thread - i posted what i felt is a guy who gets lots of azz, GOOD LOOKING azz, so people could at least look at his confidence levels and learn from it
 

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AFC Savior said:
im always honest, im not gonna sugarcoat anything, i say it how it is, so thats how its gonna be
Neither am I going to sugarcoat anything. It gets me in more trouble than it is worth. Therefore, I rarely argue. I take a post to post basis. I don't bring up past disagreements very much unless to prove a point. You have a good post.

Inside man, as a favor to me please remove your post. This is a good thread and it would be a shame to turn it into a flame war. I would have sent you a PM but you disabled that feature.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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