"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The Secret to Life... (Quote from Style)

I'm in the Mood

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I heard this amazing quote from Neil Strauss, and it really spoke to me as a belief coming from a mature man who has mastered indifference. I thought I'd share this one with you guys.

"Here's the secret to life: Don't take it personally. Not just for pickup but for life in general. Everyone's a jerk to you someday. Someone's an assh0le on the street and bumps into you and says "fvck off". It's not about you. He's a jerk. If you have a day and you lose your job, and your girlfriend breaks up with you, and you crash your car; the world doesn't hate you, you just had a bad day. It will make life so much easier if you don't take it personally...As you enter this world and you talk to guys, you're going to find out what your problems are, and what they aren't. When they tell it to you, don't take it personally. You think about it. You have to have this filter inside that takes in all criticism not personally and not judgmentally. You take in the criticism and you think: "Is that true?" and you take a hard look at yourself. If it's true, you work to solve it and change it. If it's not true, you just throw it out."

Cheers
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Life = somedays you are the pigeon, others you are the statue...
 

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What Neil Strauss said is true, but this is no revelation, it is just common sense.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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neil strauss will never be confused with napoleon hill that's for sure lol. you are bad off when you are taking life advice from style.
 

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backbreaker said:
neil strauss will never be confused with napoleon hill that's for sure lol. you are bad off when you are taking life advice from style.
BB, I'm a little surprised you say that. Maybe you said it tongue-in-cheek, but does it really matter where a good piece of advice comes from as long as it has value, even as a reminder?

I'm not trying to be combative here at all, as I have a lot of respect for you. I'm probably being too serious about it. It's just that when I find value I couldn't care less what the source is. My apologies if I'm misreading.
 

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Good advice is good advice and those are surely words of wisdom. It may sound very simple, but it is something that many of us, myself included, forget all the time.

We would all do well to keep these words in mind.
 

Sir Psycho Sexy

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Trader said:
it is just common sense.
So is a lot of stuff posted at this forum and yet we still discuss it.

If what you said is true then why do people get so offended so easily and quickly in life?

Common sense isnt always so common.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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