The secret to getting women is proximity and commonality.

[Special T]

Let's say a man has all the necessary qualities that attract women we all talk about everyday. The next step is to meet women and show them why he's a catch. Clubs and bars are known for flaky women. You have nothing in common with them. Let's say a stranger approached you and started talking about his love for collecting blueberries. Would you want to hang out with him? Compare this to a guy that said he loves playing Xbox (and you do too) and he has gaming parties on the weekend. Would you be more inclined to hang out with the second guy? Probably.

This is the same for women. I think the criteria to meet women is proximity and commonality. First, you must be around women and second, you must have something in common with them. The commonality is the ultimate ice breaker. Most girls hook up with guys from school, work, or friends.

What does a man do if he:

a) Doesn't go to school
b) There are no suitable females at work
c) Has few friends (if any)

?

My employer reimburses for college tuition, so I'm definitely going back to school this year or next. My job has no opportunities to meet women. And I don't have any friends who can introduce me to single girls my age. I'm doing my best at trying to find different hobbies and interest groups.

Any other suggestions?

I'm really looking for some responses by guys that attract females outside of cold approaching and night game. Like if you had relationships with girls from your social circle, how did you go about doing it? Or how did you "put your foot in the door" with girls at school or work?

 

[Special T]

I may have worded this thread incorrectly and you all expected for me to share some secrets... but does anyone have a response?

Anybody have tips on how to develop deep rapport (or an illusion) with a female?

 

[lakeshore]

special t, you are dead on with your assessment.

You need to have a reason to be around women, to be in there personal space, to have the oppurtunity to look into their eyes from a close distance. To have a reason to invest time with them. And this should come from some common thing (whatever it may be) you are doing together.



This is why personal trainers get laid more times then they change their underwear.

Unfortunately, I can't think of any easy answer on how this can be done on a regular or sometimes basis.

 

[Ice882]

No, no, no. Proximity is important, but commonality is what NICE GUYS think they need to do to get women. They think, "well, maybe if enough of our personality aspects match, she'll slowly realize she's in love with me." So then they go out and agree with everything she says, nodding their head at everything she says, being a typical nice guy, causing no conflict. You have to realize and remember: OPPOSITES ATTRACT. DISAGREEMENT IS EXCITING. DO NOTTTTTT TRY AND MATCH UP WITH EVERY ONE OF HER LIKES AND DISLIKES, IT WILL PUT YOU IN THE FRIEND ZONE AND YOU WON'T BE BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF OR WITH HER!!!!!

 

[Ice882]

^ok. not EXACTLY relevant to the topic, but still true.

 

[Special T]

No, no, no. Proximity is important, but commonality is what NICE GUYS think they need to do to get women. They think, "well, maybe if enough of our personality aspects match, she'll slowly realize she's in love with me." So then they go out and agree with everything she says, nodding their head at everything she says, being a typical nice guy, causing no conflict. You have to realize and remember: OPPOSITES ATTRACT. DISAGREEMENT IS EXCITING. DO NOTTTTTT TRY AND MATCH UP WITH EVERY ONE OF HER LIKES AND DISLIKES, IT WILL PUT YOU IN THE FRIEND ZONE AND YOU WON'T BE BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF OR WITH HER!!!!!

I stopped doing that a long time ago. But I'm talking about that initial "spark". The ice breaker. I have a hard time doing cold approaches, and when I do she'll flake out. How can I quickly elicit something from a female and have her feel there's rapport?

Basically, any tips to have a female warm up to you quickly?

 

[horaholic]

mirror her excitement level. look in her left eye (linked to the emotional side of the brain.

The best way to build rapport is to appear to have the same ethical viewpoints and ideals as her. If she talks about volunteering at the orphanage, thats your cue to talk about any kind of 'giving' that you've done. She will feel like you have chemistry. Just be sure to not focus on the conversation topic. Focus on your interaction with her. Thats the big AFC mistake. When AFCs find something in common with a girls, they focus on that commonality, which drives them into the friendzone. You need to focus on HER. Commonalities is great, but you must escalate past them. Make statement of intent. "Wow. Are you like, 'feeling' this too?." Go for the kiss right there. Chicks like FEELING. so talk about how you you are feeling like you connect with her. It sounds cheesy, but chicks will eat that up.

Also, dont be afraid to break rapport. Its a good thing. Its shows her you dont kiss her ass and agree with everything she says. Just do it in a lighthearted way.

Everyone has stuff in common. you just need to make her know it. "You think puppies are cute?? Wow! I think puppies are cute. Isnt that weird. Do you believe in fate?"

 

[Ice882]

I stopped doing that a long time ago. But I'm talking about that initial "spark". The ice breaker. I have a hard time doing cold approaches, and when I do she'll flake out. How can I quickly elicit something from a female and have her feel there's rapport?

Basically, any tips to have a female warm up to you quickly?

Be funny from the get go. Take this as an example:

first day of the semester (january 4th or something). I walk into my math class and see a girl that I like. There are only about 3 other people in the room. They are all sitting far apart because they are afraid of being uncomfortable with people they don't know. I walk in, see her, make eye contact. She sees me and smiles. I give her a little "air kiss". You know, where you pucker your lips real quick and sort of give an upward head nod? Yeah. She laughs a little bit and gives me a big smile. I walk right over and sit next to her and say, "whats up, girl. I'm Ice" *handshake, I hold on to her hand a split second longer than necessary, making eye contact, sly smile on my face* "I'm (girl)". blah blah blah we talk a little about nothing (literally, nothing, just keep your mouth moving and your face smiling. Focus on sending good body language signals and keeping eye contact rather than saying something smart). Class starts and we face the teacher. He does some funny stuff in class and we exchange glances frequently when he does, always smiling. I make funny little comments under my breath that only she can hear. When our teacher says something ridiculous I look at her out of the corner of my eye and go "hmm" for example with a smirk on my face. After class, I wait for her to pack her books up. I don't pretend like I'm doing something else and try to catch her at the door. I just make it blatantly obvious that I'm waiting for her so we can talk. I ask her for her number. She gives it to me. I'm about to call her in the next day or two to set up a date.

Bam.

 

[BigJimbo]

special t, you are dead on with your assessment.

You need to have a reason to be around women, to be in there personal space, to have the oppurtunity to look into their eyes from a close distance. To have a reason to invest time with them. And this should come from some common thing (whatever it may be) you are doing together.



This is why personal trainers get laid more times then they change their underwear.

Unfortunately, I can't think of any easy answer on how this can be done on a regular or sometimes basis.

In America females have major ***** shields up. The reason is because there really is no where with so few decent females. It is hard. Lots of guys in America have money and a decent life to give to a broad. How many females in America are even single, never married, no kids, and thin? Pretty much anything thin in America who is under 25 is considered "hot". In the end the numbers are just really against you.

 

[Alextheegreat]

In America females have major ***** shields up. The reason is because there really is no where with so few decent females. It is hard. Lots of guys in America have money and a decent life to give to a broad. How many females in America are even single, never married, no kids, and thin? Pretty much anything thin in America who is under 25 is considered "hot". In the end the numbers are just really against you.

Haha thats why you move to china.

 

[nismo-4]

Haha thats why you move to china.

Haha that's why you work on making millions and raising your status and being physically attractive.