"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The Second Date

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Okay so i went to the movies with this girl sat night last week, and we didnt kiss anything, she didnt even give me a chance to kiss her, and im not gonna hook up with her in a theatre full of little kids and their parents, and she didnt do anything when sheleft no hug or anything, but anyways, i dont know if she took that as a date or not. it was the first time we hung out just me and her, i met her thought by friends party. But now i want to go on a second date with her, but I dont know where to go, and i want to get in a kiss or soemthing in to get it through to her that i want to be with her or that i like. She has been IMing me alot lately, and weve been talking a lot but i try to make the convos short and sweet. But im just confused and I think she just thinks were friends.

So any help kthx
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Did you try to touch her? Her knee? Her Shoulder? Her hand? These are all places that few friends feel comfortable with. If you go for all three of these at some point and succeed at all three, she wants you.
 

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If I'm going to the movies with a girl for the first time, I generally leave the arm rest down. If her arm is ON the armrest, I playfully push it off and put mine on there. Also, I usually lean towards her. It's a subtle lean, nothing obvious. If she leans back, and has her shoulder up against mine, then it's time for a little kino. Maybe some hand touching, maybe some playful glances, possibly a wink or two. If she ends up leaning towards me quite a bit, and returns my glances, I pick up the arm rest and scoot towards her a bit. If she's down with that, I just say "come here" and put my arm around her. Simple as that.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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yeah, i was scared to make some kino at the movies i dont know why thought, but our bodys did touch, and i did play with her fingers and herhand for a bit, and we did glance a bit. So i guess thats something. But i dunno where to go on a seocnd date. since in my town theres nothing but the mall, and the movies.
So any ideas?
 

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If you can touch her hands, she's interested. That's generally a good rule of thumb. As far as dates go, who cares. My town is smaller than a squirrels penis and I still find **** to do. It's summer, go to the beach preferably or the pool and swim. It's got to be hot as hell where you are because in Northern Minnesota it feels like i'm three inches from the sun.

Chicks love the beach. They can swim, they can tan. It's a good time. It's probably more of a group date, so try to get going by ten, and then isolate around lunch time (i.e. get her alone by asking her where she wants to eat. Not if, but where.)

Then, make a few moves, a little kino, keep it light, and try to make strong eye contact. Strong eye contact will seduce any woman. Except a blind one. If she returns the eye contact strongly, and there's a silence where it's not awkward but you're both keeping good strong eye contact, it's time to go for the kiss. Hopefully you know what to do from there.
 

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UltimateScoundrel said:
If you can touch her hands, she's interested. That's generally a good rule of thumb. As far as dates go, who cares. My town is smaller than a squirrels penis and I still find **** to do. It's summer, go to the beach preferably or the pool and swim. It's got to be hot as hell where you are because in Northern Minnesota it feels like i'm three inches from the sun.

Chicks love the beach. They can swim, they can tan. It's a good time. It's probably more of a group date, so try to get going by ten, and then isolate around lunch time (i.e. get her alone by asking her where she wants to eat. Not if, but where.)

Then, make a few moves, a little kino, keep it light, and try to make strong eye contact. Strong eye contact will seduce any woman. Except a blind one. If she returns the eye contact strongly, and there's a silence where it's not awkward but you're both keeping good strong eye contact, it's time to go for the kiss. Hopefully you know what to do from there.
hmm that sounds like a good idea, and then maybe go for a walk with her on the beach, she would dig that. Thanks for the advice, I feel confident enough now to do what I gotta do.
 
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