"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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The Second Date

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Okay so i went to the movies with this girl sat night last week, and we didnt kiss anything, she didnt even give me a chance to kiss her, and im not gonna hook up with her in a theatre full of little kids and their parents, and she didnt do anything when sheleft no hug or anything, but anyways, i dont know if she took that as a date or not. it was the first time we hung out just me and her, i met her thought by friends party. But now i want to go on a second date with her, but I dont know where to go, and i want to get in a kiss or soemthing in to get it through to her that i want to be with her or that i like. She has been IMing me alot lately, and weve been talking a lot but i try to make the convos short and sweet. But im just confused and I think she just thinks were friends.

So any help kthx
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Did you try to touch her? Her knee? Her Shoulder? Her hand? These are all places that few friends feel comfortable with. If you go for all three of these at some point and succeed at all three, she wants you.
 

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If I'm going to the movies with a girl for the first time, I generally leave the arm rest down. If her arm is ON the armrest, I playfully push it off and put mine on there. Also, I usually lean towards her. It's a subtle lean, nothing obvious. If she leans back, and has her shoulder up against mine, then it's time for a little kino. Maybe some hand touching, maybe some playful glances, possibly a wink or two. If she ends up leaning towards me quite a bit, and returns my glances, I pick up the arm rest and scoot towards her a bit. If she's down with that, I just say "come here" and put my arm around her. Simple as that.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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yeah, i was scared to make some kino at the movies i dont know why thought, but our bodys did touch, and i did play with her fingers and herhand for a bit, and we did glance a bit. So i guess thats something. But i dunno where to go on a seocnd date. since in my town theres nothing but the mall, and the movies.
So any ideas?
 

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If you can touch her hands, she's interested. That's generally a good rule of thumb. As far as dates go, who cares. My town is smaller than a squirrels penis and I still find **** to do. It's summer, go to the beach preferably or the pool and swim. It's got to be hot as hell where you are because in Northern Minnesota it feels like i'm three inches from the sun.

Chicks love the beach. They can swim, they can tan. It's a good time. It's probably more of a group date, so try to get going by ten, and then isolate around lunch time (i.e. get her alone by asking her where she wants to eat. Not if, but where.)

Then, make a few moves, a little kino, keep it light, and try to make strong eye contact. Strong eye contact will seduce any woman. Except a blind one. If she returns the eye contact strongly, and there's a silence where it's not awkward but you're both keeping good strong eye contact, it's time to go for the kiss. Hopefully you know what to do from there.
 

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UltimateScoundrel said:
If you can touch her hands, she's interested. That's generally a good rule of thumb. As far as dates go, who cares. My town is smaller than a squirrels penis and I still find **** to do. It's summer, go to the beach preferably or the pool and swim. It's got to be hot as hell where you are because in Northern Minnesota it feels like i'm three inches from the sun.

Chicks love the beach. They can swim, they can tan. It's a good time. It's probably more of a group date, so try to get going by ten, and then isolate around lunch time (i.e. get her alone by asking her where she wants to eat. Not if, but where.)

Then, make a few moves, a little kino, keep it light, and try to make strong eye contact. Strong eye contact will seduce any woman. Except a blind one. If she returns the eye contact strongly, and there's a silence where it's not awkward but you're both keeping good strong eye contact, it's time to go for the kiss. Hopefully you know what to do from there.
hmm that sounds like a good idea, and then maybe go for a walk with her on the beach, she would dig that. Thanks for the advice, I feel confident enough now to do what I gotta do.
 
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