"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

The second call

biketrials

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 16, 2006
Messages
31
Reaction score
0
I have read a hell of a lot about the first call but I am confused about the second call. I want yall to clarify if I should still make the quick 15 minute call or should I go longer.


Thanks fo the clarification
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

08aisaac

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 22, 2005
Messages
740
Reaction score
1
Age
36
I always listen to my heart.
Lol. jk.
Just talk until you get bored talking.
Of course, if things get stale, just be like, I gtg.
 

Damian

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 13, 2005
Messages
440
Reaction score
3
Location
San Diego, CA
If you can keep a stimulating conversation going for hours at a time, by all means, but don't make it a habit.

Tailor your phone time to your own conversational capabilities. If you aren't too much of a smooth talker on the phone, then don't bother having any long and intellectual phone conversations. If you can keep a strong verbal front, push your advantage and have some good conversations.

On average, your phone conversations should not exceed 45 minutes each. I usually like to set a lower standard, so it will be easier for me to progress and show connection as a slowly increase call times. Test your own capabilities then figure out your own "perfect timing" for calls. Report back and give us what you find.

-Damian
 
Top