The rules of highschool never changed in the real world, just evolved

[GoodMan32]

That was a while ago though. I though ascended if she like choose to be with you. Like be your girl.

You're right, our sex was a one time thing 4 years ago.

Still, the fact I pulled an 8/10, even if only for a one time thing, is more than the naysayers in high school told me I'd get.

 

[corrector]

You're right, our sex was a one time thing 4 years ago.

Still, the fact I pulled an 8/10, even if only for a one time thing, is more than the naysayers in high school told me I'd get.

That is true. However, if word got around you paid for it....they would ignore all of that and focus on that one aspect and start laughing at you. I felt mocked by my high school "spiritutal" memory when I paid for it in the past that I felt that mockery and teasing from them was partially responsible for putting me off balance mentally after doing that. It's the ultimate humilation if words got around I paid for play to high school classmates in an all boys school, that I was like very religious and focused during the later years of that school. Complete betrayal of all of that. I don't even want to identify with the fornicators in that high school, they have this look in their eyes that they are just sleeping with women but, it's an off-key look that doesn't look right...and I partook in that too (ie Dec, 2014), so they were laughing at me too in my mind.

Do your think your high school people would make fun if you if they heard you paid for it once, let along having a lifestyle on it?

 

[GoodMan32]

That is true. However, if word got around you paid for it....they would ignore all of that and focus on that one aspect and start laughing at you. I felt mocked by my high school "spiritutal" memory when I paid for it in the past that I felt that mockery and teasing from them was partially responsible for putting me off balance mentally after doing that. It's the ultimate humilation if words got around I paid for play to high school classmates in an all boys school, that I was like very religious and focused during the later years of that school. Complete betrayal of all of that. I don't even want to identify with the fornicators in that high school, they have this look in their eyes that they are just sleeping with women but, it's an off-key look that doesn't look right...and I partook in that too (ie Dec, 2014), so they were laughing at me too in my mind.

Do your think your high school people would make fun if you if they heard you paid for it once, let along having a lifestyle on it?

I'd totally be mocked if they found out how many times I've paid.

I mentioned the 8/10 from 4 years ago, however, because I didn't pay her (she's the most recent example I didn't pay)

Paying takes little to no skill. Pulling an 8/10 for free, on the other hand, is impressive.

 

[corrector]

I'd totally be mocked if they found out how many times I've paid.

If it's done once it's a mock, if it's done many times, then that's a shock.

I mentioned the 8/10 from 4 years ago, however, because I didn't pay her (she's the most recent example I didn't pay)

These high school narbos don't care about that. They care that you paid for it. That 8/10 may be seen as a mercy prize or lucky break.
People get lucky once in a blue moon sometimes.

Paying takes little to no skill. Pulling an 8/10 for free, on the other hand, is impressive.

As you say, you have experience paying for it. If you are saying it takes little or no skill then I'll take your word for it.

 

[GoodMan32]

If it's done once it's a mock, if it's done many times, then that's a shock.



These high school narbos don't care about that. They care that you paid for it. That 8/10 may be seen as a mercy prize or lucky break.
People get lucky once in a blue moon sometimes.



As you say, you have experience paying for it. If you are saying it takes little or no skill then I'll take your word for it.

Come to think of it, when I was at my younger brother's high school graduation (he's a few years younger than me), there were a decent amount of alumni closer in age to me at the graduation (as they had relatives or friends in my brother's grade). When talking about college with me, I remember it coming up with some of my former high school classmates that I had finally gotten laid (for free...this was back when all my sex was free)

How far the word traveled through my high school town, on the other hand, I have no idea.

 

[Slowhandluke]

In the movies, Jake Ryan of Sixteen Candles has a nearly new, red Porsche 944 and he is good looking. He ends up pursuing something that appears to be monogamous with mid-tier Samantha Baker (Molly Ringwald).

In real life, post-high school and often post-college, a good looking guy with a Porsche will swipe right on a mid chick and the mid chick will swipe right on him. They will have sex with her for a short period of time and he will dump her for other options.

The 80's was a different time. Jake Ryan would have been ostracized by society if he "hit it and quit it" with Samantha. People didn't really sleep arround in the 80's.. especially not the "cool" people that other people looked up to. Divorce was rare, hoeing was looked down on, and only fans was criminal. Remember only a few years before, you had the people vs Larry Flynn.

People were shooting other people over "dirty magazines" and vast majority of people wanted to censor gangster rap. HELL, arround this time, their was a movement to take the simpsons off the air for corrupting society. The 80's movie WAS a good representation of what it was like in the 80s and that was why it was so popular. Perhaps not 100% like how highschol was, but close enough for the audience at the time to relate to it and make it popular.

if you compare that movie, to how society is like NOW... yes, it's totally different. Perhaps a current Jake would be allowed to be F-BOY in highschool or post highschool... to sleep arround girl after girl. I'm not sure. it's been a while since highschool.

however, I think being monogamous seems to be getting cool now.. or getting cool. The pendulum is swinging the other way. I don't have an tattoos... and now that appears to be cool.. huhmmm.. check it out. I'm kinda cool now for not wearing a tattoo hahhaha

 

[Slowhandluke]

You're right, our sex was a one time thing 4 years ago.

Still, the fact I pulled an 8/10, even if only for a one time thing, is more than the naysayers in high school told me I'd get.

what? you want a cookie.. hahahahha

 

[BaronOfHair]

In the movies, Jake Ryan of Sixteen Candles has a nearly new, red Porsche 944 and he is good looking. He ends up pursuing something that appears to be monogamous with mid-tier Samantha Baker (Molly Ringwald).

Pretty sure 80s Molly Ringwald was many a fella's Dream Girl during that decade, even if not my personal cup of tea

 

[BaronOfHair]

The 80's was a different time. Jake Ryan would have been ostracized by society if he "hit it and quit it" with Samantha. People didn't really sleep arround in the 80's.. especially not the "cool" people that other people looked up to

AIDs crashed the party at the beginning of the decade, effectively drenching The Free Love ethos of The 70s in kerosene, then lighting it up via blowtorch. Slutting it up's come back en vogue, with the advent of anti-virals and folks born in the mid-90s and all points after having no memories of that time period

 

[SW15]

The 80's was a different time. Jake Ryan would have been ostracized by society if he "hit it and quit it" with Samantha. People didn't really sleep arround in the 80's.. especially not the "cool" people that other people looked up to. Divorce was rare, hoeing was looked down on, and only fans was criminal. Remember only a few years before, you had the people vs Larry Flynn.

AIDS crashed the party at the beginning of the decade, effectively drenching The Free Love ethos of The 70s in kerosene, then lighting it up via blowtorch. Slutting it up's come back en vogue, with the advent of anti-virals and folks born in the mid-90s and all points after having no memories of that time period

It's true that HIV/AIDS slowed things down in the 1980s, but it seems like there were 2 sets of rules in the 1980s.

Plenty of athletes and musicians who peaked in the 1980s were enjoying sex with multiple women during that decade.

HIV/AIDS was more of an issue in the homosexual community than the heterosexual community in the 1980s. It was possible for heterosexuals to get it, so that was a consideration.

@BaronOfHair is correct that the best treatments of HIV did not arise until the mid-1990s.

I didn't arrive in the sexual marketplace until the tail end of the 1990s decade. I remember seeing stories around 2000-2005 (late high school and college for me) about how HIV/AIDS was less of a concern in the sexual marketplace.

If Jake Ryan "hit it and quit it" with Samantha in high school suburbia in the 1980s, then I could see how that would have been an issue. If Jake and Samantha had been legal adults in a bigger city (college and beyond), I think it would have been less of an issue.

Most people get married at least once before turning 50. Promiscuity prior to marriage did increase in the 1980s as has been the trend for decades. Age at first marriage continued to increase in the 1980s-1990s, but it got most notable when the Millennials reached their mid-20s + in the 2000s-2010s.

 

[Mike32ct]

It's true that HIV/AIDS slowed things down in the 1980s, but it seems like there were 2 sets of rules in the 1980s.

Plenty of athletes and musicians who peaked in the 1980s were enjoying sex with multiple women during that decade.

HIV/AIDS was more of an issue in the homosexual community than the heterosexual community in the 1980s. It was possible for heterosexual to get it, so that was a consideration.

Despite the lower risk in the heterosexual community, there were a lot of commercials on tv back then for straight people scaring them into condom use or possibly even celibacy. It was heavily drilled into people’s heads back then.

 

[jhonny9546]

Oh, women love gossip

True, but if I do say "men that gossip are unactractive" it's also true.
So what is this connection based on? Information but not desire, correct?

@Slowhandluke Your thoughts are undervalued! Nice point!

 

[SW15]

Despite the lower risk in the heterosexual community, there were a lot of commercials on tv back then for straight people scaring them into condom use or possibly even celibacy. It was heavily drilled into people’s heads back then.

There was a scary period for heterosexuals surrounding HIV/AIDS.

Magic Johnson's HIV case in late 1991 also contributed to this perception. I was in elementary school when Magic announced that he had HIV.

By the early 2000s, the memories of the fear around Magic's HIV announcement had subsided. I think the anti-HIV drugs that hit the market in the mid 1990s affected that.

Condom use is a good thing.

It's even an Iron Rule of Tomassi.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Despite the lower risk in the heterosexual community, there were a lot of commercials on tv back then for straight people scaring them into condom use or possibly even celibacy. It was heavily drilled into people’s heads back then.

Exactly!!! Even James Bond began bedding fewer women on screen post-AIDs with The Dalton flicks. Attributing this to Feminism doesn't hold up, given Roger Moore's kill count in The 70s, when The 2nd Wave was at it's height

 

[Solomon]

I think that social circle dynamics are definitely like High school even for people who are 40+
The only thing that changes is if you glow up, the girl who wouldn't date you in High school may now give you a chance in your 20s, 30s etc
But I live in a town that is so cliche, most people only hang out with people from high school or college

 

[SW15]

The only thing that changes is if you glow up, the girl who wouldn't date you in High school may now give you a chance in your 20s, 30s etc
But I live in a town that is so cliche, most people only hang out with people from high school or college

Big cities in the USA generally aren't like this.

For example, I live in a big USA city. I finished high school in a less populated area.

I never see anyone who was a high school classmate.

I haven't had the opportunity to interact with the specific girls who wouldn't date me in high school.

 

[Solomon]

Big cities in the USA generally aren't like this.

For example, I live in a big USA city. I finished high school in a less populated area.

I never see anyone who was a high school classmate.

I haven't had the opportunity to interact with the specific girls who wouldn't date me in high school.

In my 20s I use to run into people from High school all the time at bars/club in my 30s it tapered of, now that I'm older I can't recall last time I ran into someone but than again I don't go to bars/clubs (unless it's a bar restaurant for food and the game)

 

[SW15]

In my 20s I use to run into people from High school all the time at bars/club in my 30s it tapered of, now that I'm older I can't recall last time I ran into someone but than again I don't go to bars/clubs (unless it's a bar restaurant for food and the game)

The primary reason that I don't run into people from my high school graduating class is my relocations since high school graduation.

I have also chosen to not connect on social media to many people from my high school. However, I will look up to see what people from my high school are doing on various social media platforms. Some of them might do that with me.

Post-college relocations are also the primary reason that I haven't interacted with a lot of women from my college era.

 

[Slowhandluke]

AIDs crashed the party at the beginning of the decade, effectively drenching The Free Love ethos of The 70s in kerosene, then lighting it up via blowtorch. Slutting it up's come back en vogue, with the advent of anti-virals and folks born in the mid-90s and all points after having no memories of that time period

free love was not the mainstream.. remember most people who were affected by AIDS were gays and people at the time didn't know that. A lot of people got AIDS also because of blood transfusion, but mostly through gay sex. Anthony Fauci thought initially it was through the air (mom to baby transmission).

But yeah, after a while the whole "let's hoe it up" theme started to be more mainstream. But that was closer to early to mid 1990s. Not during the early 80s when this movie was made. 80s was a very conservative time as compared to the beginnings of the 90s.

Shows like ally mcbeal, sex in the city, eat pray love, etc. started to saturated society. The rise of the girl boss hahahhahahahah and 3 or is it 4th wave feminism.