"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The rise of the soothing beta

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I’ve noticed time and time again, once you drop a gf hard (and according to her, out of nowhere) she eventually emerges victorioulsy with some poor AFC in her jaws, usually singing odes to the nice guy even though it’s you they want more than anything else. They will still try and make you jealous, will still try and make you chase, so she can get some validation - and you know why. Women are far worse at dealing with rejection than men. Use that to your advantage. An ex that's in a relationship with an AFC, while still having feelings for you, can be easily turned into a FWB. The secrecy of it will add extra tingles.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Excellent post.

Also.. there is nothing more powerful than NC (No Contact). It is truly the atomic bomb of the dating world. Anytime you can't get a woman to act right, NC will pull the rug out from under her feet and devastate her.

Some men are afraid of looking "butt hurt" but that is a load of crap. Whining, b!tching and arguing with a woman is "butt hurt". Ignoring her existence is REJECTION. And its devastating to women (even if they don't like you).

It attacks the 4 main core weaknesses of the modern female:

1. Her need for validation
2. Her need for control (access to you when she wants it)
3. Her need to "know stuff" (ever wonder why women always want to know where you are and what you're doing?)
4. Her need for a happy ending or "closure" (Walking away on good terms and remaining "friends")

NC is the most powerful weapon a man has. Simply doing NOTHING because a girl is not worth the time and effort. The ultimate insult to a woman is.. "you are not important". :yes:
 

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Great thread.

Was about to start a thread of my own about how women have a much much longer memory than men. Sure, we get oneitis, too, but women I think get it longer and much more strongly even if they've seemingly moved on and have their "needs met".

Recently I've run into a couple of women I disappeared on... not necessarily an intentional NC, just I had better options or wasn't that interested. I happened to run into one chick at a bar where she was celebrating her birthday. This was after about 8 months since we hooked up once. I wished her happy birthday on facebook earlier that day. Anyway, she runs up to me and is like "you remembered my birthday!" and then when I was leaving (I was perfectly OK with just leaving without saying bye) "thanks for coming."

Funny thing is, it wasn't even a sarcastic "thanks for coming." She actually was trying to convince herself that somehow I knew she'd be at this bar all the way across town and I was coming to her party.

Women are a trip.
 

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Girl's onetis is tougher because they have to find a better man to get over it. All we have to do is find a hotter chick.
Hypergamy backfires.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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