You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I am probably the most frustrated and hapless guy on here when it comes to the opposite sex and I am not gay and more likely homophobic. I dont understand that because I like women (if they are safely on the other side a screen).
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Lesbians will make an exception for the right guy.
You're still not frustrated enough to want to turn to men. Nor will I say that being frustrated necessitates becoming gay. But it's the usual marker for going that route.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
There is no level of frustration that will ever make me turn to guys, because it does not compute with me.
I don't see that on incel sites (when they have that). There are more discussions about paying for it with a woman than sexual orientation.HaleyBaron said:
Agreed, if it's two women it's hot. I would fast forward or would never want to watch two guys if it's a scene in a movie, but if it's two women, I have to discipline myself to fast forward it, because admittedly it's a turn on to watch this.
A lot of them did before they came out - not talking to their women that they were on the side seeing men using these women as cover sexually. It’s morally repugnant
Gay PDA as long as it’s any reasonable level that a straight couple would do doesn’t bother me these days. Any slob fest of any orientation I think is low class
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I don't know you enough to make any assumptions. Last I remember, you spoke a lot of doing escorts, which is a fair outlet for frustration. Frustration is one of the ingredients, not the entire whole for it. I spoke earlier that the main components tend to be abuse as a child, mental trauma, and lack of sexual release. Gay men tend to have a sense of submissiveness to the reality of the world, and just assume they are attracted to men. When in reality, it is more of a mental disorder stemming from something else. Prison already gives us one reality of homosexuality with a reason behind it: removal of women.
I put this under the umbrella of ladyboys. I would still just call that a preference for a gay partner, but it's still as gay as the guys who like the manly high T bodies. The key point however is that the man retains his attraction to feminine appearances so your argument does make sense from that point of view. Then you have to ask, why some men fall into liking shemales.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Because they want to be misoginist and patriarcal at the same time so they dislike women but want to own someone that looks like one.
You almost had me.
Good to know. I wanted to ask because I only know about 15 gay dudes. I didn't want to lump them all in the same category.
I have not met any gay men that I think are masculine. The gay men that I have met either had mannerisms and/or a tone of their voice that wasn't typically masculine.
No self-respecting straight man would settle for a broad who's looks and demeanor so distinctly un-feminine, they make her an easy target for cracks such as
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.