Well I hardly feel i'm qualified to be posting a tip, but this worked well for me, and I thought perhaps I could share.
I've been out of a real relationship for over a year now, and aside from some hookups here and there, i've been single. Anyway, the other night, a girl I'd been seeing kinda sporadically indicated she was probably looking for a relationship. Where this goes isn't really the point, but I just want to use it as a frame of reference.
The next morning I woke up and went about my day with not a care in the world regarding the opposite sex. It was the same sort of nonchalance one walks around with when they're in a commited relationship.
This got me thinking, since I've been having trouble getting in the right mindset lately. I dont want to come across too eager, desperate, or pathetic of course, but acting too disinterested doesn't lead where I want it to either!
Then I realized that the way my non-single friends act is precisely the way I needed to be acting. So today after the feeling had worn off, I just walked around with two thoughts in my mind: 1) I have a girlfriend (even though I don't. trust me, it works) 2) If I decided to sleep with you, I'd give you the best sex you'll ever have.
Sounds presumtuous, but it works. This is all internal, since I'm not telling people this stuff, but it communicates itself non-verbally. The way you carry yourself and interact are fundamentally changed, but very subtly so it doesn't seem affected or fake.
Anyway, i wanted to share this thought, see what people think. I think that if you adopt the exact mindset of what you want to be, then reality will match you.
--Kel
I've been out of a real relationship for over a year now, and aside from some hookups here and there, i've been single. Anyway, the other night, a girl I'd been seeing kinda sporadically indicated she was probably looking for a relationship. Where this goes isn't really the point, but I just want to use it as a frame of reference.
The next morning I woke up and went about my day with not a care in the world regarding the opposite sex. It was the same sort of nonchalance one walks around with when they're in a commited relationship.
This got me thinking, since I've been having trouble getting in the right mindset lately. I dont want to come across too eager, desperate, or pathetic of course, but acting too disinterested doesn't lead where I want it to either!
Then I realized that the way my non-single friends act is precisely the way I needed to be acting. So today after the feeling had worn off, I just walked around with two thoughts in my mind: 1) I have a girlfriend (even though I don't. trust me, it works) 2) If I decided to sleep with you, I'd give you the best sex you'll ever have.
Sounds presumtuous, but it works. This is all internal, since I'm not telling people this stuff, but it communicates itself non-verbally. The way you carry yourself and interact are fundamentally changed, but very subtly so it doesn't seem affected or fake.
Anyway, i wanted to share this thought, see what people think. I think that if you adopt the exact mindset of what you want to be, then reality will match you.
--Kel
