backbreaker
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This forum is very quick to talk about the difference between an alpha or a beta male, though I prefer the term AFC. But talking about the difference between what one guy is doing to come off as alpha while the other comes off as beta is trying to explain to someone why the New England Patriots are good every year and the Oakland Raiders suck every year.
I mean in a simplistic expiation, the patriots aren't good beucase they were certain color jerseys or play in a certain place, they do things, on a daily basis, that gives them the ability to go out and perform at a high level. And that's something I don't think most guys get.
what I mean is, Alpha male is not a verb, it's a noun. Meaning it's not something you do, it's someone you are or aren't. You aren't doing something that's alpha you aren't acting Alpha, you either are an alpha or you aren't.
There are a lot of responsibilities that go with being an alpha male, that most men refuse to take on and thus will never be alpha males regardless of how many women they sleep with or how many dates they go on a week, it's window dressing.
1. Alpha Males are always accountable. That sounds great, it sounds like a good byline to a post doesn't it? be accountable. However here's the rub. You are not only accountable for the things that you do, and that in itself is hard enough for most men, but you are accountable for just about everything that is associated with you. Wife's friend needs her pc fixed? don't even freaking ask me just drop the mofo at my house and tell me to fix it lol. Such and such is having a bad day backbreaker can you go talk to him and make him feel better? Hey backbreaker man I know we got this web project for our best client due in like a week and i know we are like 2 days behind but yeah.. um... my GF wants to go out of town so i can't work on it, figure that **** out lol. oh yeah and i still want to be paid too. Daddy my tooth hurts make it stop lol. now.
Being an Alpha male means that people expect you to fix/manage ****. that's what alpha males do. They figure **** out, even when it's not their ****. People look to them for guidance /help
2. Alpha Males are independent and self reliant. IF I need something, I don't need to ask anyone else for help to get it. If I want something, I dont' have to ask anyone else for help to get it. Alpha Males don't live at home, they don't live with room mates, they don't shack up to save money, they don't borrow money from mom or dad. It goes further than that. Id on't need the company of anyone to entertain myself or to make myself happy. Not saying I don't like the company of anyone else, but it's not a necessity. I can very well entertain myself and at times prefer to.
Being an Alpha male doesn't mean you are rich. My father is not a rich man, not by anyone's account, but my father has everything eh wants and everything he has, he got it himself. Drives a 2012 tahoe, owns his own house, has a knock around jeep grand Cherokee, has a very big wardrobe, travels monthly, yet has spotless credit and zero debt, even has the deed to his house. My dad makes between 70k-90k a year. never stepped foot on college. Being an alpha male has nothing to do with how much money you make, it's a mindset. My dad can take care of himself. Like me, when someone needs ****, he's the guy everyone calls.
3. Last but not least, alpha males are tolerant of other people. They don't get in petty arguments, they respect people's opinions even if they dont' agree with them. They understand that everyone is not where they are in life and they might not be where someone else is in life to see their viewpoint on something. They are more than willing to help someone who needs help but don't force their opinions on anyone. They don't take out their fustrations on other people, even if someone is asking for it.
quite frankly, being an alpha male is a very thankless job. When you put the above in perspective, if all i get in return is the ability to walk in a room and a few girls look at me, that's selling it short lol
This forum is very quick to talk about the difference between an alpha or a beta male, though I prefer the term AFC. But talking about the difference between what one guy is doing to come off as alpha while the other comes off as beta is trying to explain to someone why the New England Patriots are good every year and the Oakland Raiders suck every year.
I mean in a simplistic expiation, the patriots aren't good beucase they were certain color jerseys or play in a certain place, they do things, on a daily basis, that gives them the ability to go out and perform at a high level. And that's something I don't think most guys get.
what I mean is, Alpha male is not a verb, it's a noun. Meaning it's not something you do, it's someone you are or aren't. You aren't doing something that's alpha you aren't acting Alpha, you either are an alpha or you aren't.
There are a lot of responsibilities that go with being an alpha male, that most men refuse to take on and thus will never be alpha males regardless of how many women they sleep with or how many dates they go on a week, it's window dressing.
1. Alpha Males are always accountable. That sounds great, it sounds like a good byline to a post doesn't it? be accountable. However here's the rub. You are not only accountable for the things that you do, and that in itself is hard enough for most men, but you are accountable for just about everything that is associated with you. Wife's friend needs her pc fixed? don't even freaking ask me just drop the mofo at my house and tell me to fix it lol. Such and such is having a bad day backbreaker can you go talk to him and make him feel better? Hey backbreaker man I know we got this web project for our best client due in like a week and i know we are like 2 days behind but yeah.. um... my GF wants to go out of town so i can't work on it, figure that **** out lol. oh yeah and i still want to be paid too. Daddy my tooth hurts make it stop lol. now.
Being an Alpha male means that people expect you to fix/manage ****. that's what alpha males do. They figure **** out, even when it's not their ****. People look to them for guidance /help
2. Alpha Males are independent and self reliant. IF I need something, I don't need to ask anyone else for help to get it. If I want something, I dont' have to ask anyone else for help to get it. Alpha Males don't live at home, they don't live with room mates, they don't shack up to save money, they don't borrow money from mom or dad. It goes further than that. Id on't need the company of anyone to entertain myself or to make myself happy. Not saying I don't like the company of anyone else, but it's not a necessity. I can very well entertain myself and at times prefer to.
Being an Alpha male doesn't mean you are rich. My father is not a rich man, not by anyone's account, but my father has everything eh wants and everything he has, he got it himself. Drives a 2012 tahoe, owns his own house, has a knock around jeep grand Cherokee, has a very big wardrobe, travels monthly, yet has spotless credit and zero debt, even has the deed to his house. My dad makes between 70k-90k a year. never stepped foot on college. Being an alpha male has nothing to do with how much money you make, it's a mindset. My dad can take care of himself. Like me, when someone needs ****, he's the guy everyone calls.
3. Last but not least, alpha males are tolerant of other people. They don't get in petty arguments, they respect people's opinions even if they dont' agree with them. They understand that everyone is not where they are in life and they might not be where someone else is in life to see their viewpoint on something. They are more than willing to help someone who needs help but don't force their opinions on anyone. They don't take out their fustrations on other people, even if someone is asking for it.
quite frankly, being an alpha male is a very thankless job. When you put the above in perspective, if all i get in return is the ability to walk in a room and a few girls look at me, that's selling it short lol