The Rebound Guy?

[evolvingnerd]

a friend of mine jumped into a relationship with a girl who was in a LTR. and i believe, he wont confirm, that it's because of him that she broke up with him, and then after about 3 days they were already out officially dating

anyway, i think the relationship's doomed, and i fear she's using him as a patsy or just an emotional tampon or she's on the rebound or something like that

i also think the relationship is soley based on him being the shoulder to cry on when she was breaking up with the other dude, but this is all speculation on my part

how can i broach the subject with him without sounding like a fvckface?

can u guys give some wisdom regarding past such similar instances?
cheers

 

[Caveman]

If she is the one that broke up with her ex bf, she doesn't really need to be looking for a rebound. Rebounds are often used to build up the ego again. The ego will be broken when someone breaks up with you so you look for someone that will help you build it up again.

Why do you think she is using him as an emotional tampon? Have you witnessed this?

I don't think there is anything you can tell your friend. By now, he is probably in love an anything bad you say about her is gonna have him dislike you. Let him find out for himself. He probably isn't ready to hear stuff like that and if so, he will find out soon enough. Try not to get involved in relationships of your friends cuz in the end, you'll turn out to be the bad guy.

 

[evolvingnerd]

thanks caveman
confirming my initial thoughts
however, does that mean i have to be friendly with her?
she goes to different college to me, so i rarely see her, but i often see her online

i never initiate a convo with her, and even if she does, i[m somewhat ****y (guess i[m practicing) and often tease her

should i change this?

make note: i dont wanna be the one who breaks em up

 

[Caveman]

Just treat her like you would anyone you don't care for. Don't be too rude to her cuz your friend is not gonna like that and he will eventually stop hanging out with you. Be patient. If they are in a bad relationship, it will end all by itself.

Just be there with some good advice and support if they do break up and your friend is getting into oneitis mode.

 

[evolvingnerd]

heh
he's most definitley no DJ and at this rate i doubt he ever will be one

but no matter, i guess i'd best kiss her ass for a bit cause my friend and i do'nt exactly talk too much anymore
but i've started to realise he is a bit of a boring tosshead

w'ell see
cheers m8